Astonishing Over-Sexualized Inappropriate Imagery Found In The Kids Section of a Government Public Library

I used to believe over-sexualization was a problem exclusive to the entertainment industry. At this point, we all expect music videos and movies to be riddled with sexual objectification. I don’t like it, nor do I think it’s normal, though I do expect it. Never would I have thought that one day, I’d find a 9-year-old girl in the children’s section of a library, holding a comic book filled with inappropriate and over-sexualized imagery. Worst of all, it wasn’t a mistake. This comic good is marketed for kids.

I explain the full story in the following video blog, where I reveal more shocking images of the French Canadian comic book called “Les Nombrils,” which means “The Bellybuttons” in French.

Seeing a child I care about exposed to this kind of content not by accident, but because some governmental entity judges it as appropriate for them, made me realize just how severe this problem has become. Throughout their entire childhood, children are bombarded with sexual messages, day in and day out, at lightning speed from nearly every direction. Now, it turns out we have libraries to worry about too—the one place I still assumed would have somewhat of a more positive influence on the youth.

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When our culture is moving towards that kind of direction, it is our responsibility to walk the opposite way. It is our responsibility to do the best that we can to filter out these kinds of messages from our households and remind our children of the values that are truly important in life. If the culture we live in doesn’t reflect what we know deep down to be true, it’s our job to speak the truth louder than the junk we’re being fed. It’s our job to create a better culture by example. To do so, we need to begin within our own sphere of influence—our own families. We can’t forget that kids are in fact the future, and the most powerful way to change the world is by raising children who are empowered, self-aware, grounded in positive values and capable of discerning truth from deception. It is these kinds of people that can change the world. It is these kinds of people that are able to think bigger than themselves and care about solving problems. If we let the current culture raise our kids for us, I fear that the next generation might grow into a society of broken adults rather than the healers and change-makers we so desperately need.

Although this situation is very alarming to me, I’m far from being a defeatist. I made this video not to scream doom and gloom, but to remind ourselves of our power in choosing who and how we want to be in this world. Humanity is filled with goodness and although we need to be aware of the problem to stop being a part of it, we most importantly need to be part of the solution!


Related CE Articles That Go Into A Deeper Discussion

Illuminati Pedophilia: Attempts To Normalize Sex Between Adults And Children (Part 1)

lluminati Pedophilia: Attempts To Normalize Sex Between Adults And Children (Part 2)

Is The Mainstream Igniting Pedophilia With ‘Victoria Secret’-Style Lingerie Show Featuring 5yo Girls?


A Note From Collective Evolution

Regardless, these matters(mentioned in articles linked above) can no longer be minimized or ignored, especially by the Awakening Community. As difficult as some of this information is to confront, as depressed or angry as it may make us initially feel, it is only through acknowledging and processing this information that we can become empowered by a deeper empathy, one that helps us to foster healing within ourselves as well as in the community at large.

When Is The Last Time You Were GENUINELY Yourself? If You’re Still Thinking About It, Read This.

Being 100% authentic to who you are, and at peace with it. Living from the Heart. Feeling comfortable within yourself. At all times. With everyone. No matter what “people dynamics” you are exposed to.

Now that’s a tough one for an ego who needs the approval, love and acceptance of others. Inner-peace sure is conditional when we are afraid to have our mind and its beliefs challenged in one way or another. But instead of basing our actions and state of being according to the fears, worries and desires of our ego, what we should ask our heart instead is:

Is it really worth it to compromise our natural state for the sake of appeasing the ego of others? Is it worth it to step away from our natural state and rather buy into our own egoic beliefs and fears?

The truth is, when others are truly comfortable and at peace with themselves, they won’t need you to change who you are. And when you are truly comfortable and at peace within yourself, you don’t need others to change who they are. Only the ego does.

When you have reached a state of utmost clarity and inner-peace, the only thing that can really make sense… is to BE who you truly are!

So the bottom line is, when you are authentic and at peace within yourself, YES, there will always be egos challenged by you, yet there will always be souls INSPIRED by you. In both cases, it is as perfect as it can get ?

This is a simple reminder, not long, just simple. You can read it today, pass it on. Deep wisdom doesn’t have to be super long. Enjoy your day! ?

This Comic Book Was Was Actually In The Kid’s Section of a Public Library – Sexual Objectification

I used to believe over-sexualization was a problem exclusive to the entertainment industry. At this point, we all expect music videos and movies to be riddled with sexual objectification. I don’t like it, nor do I think it’s normal, though I do expect it. Never would I have thought that one day, I’d find a 9-year-old girl in the children’s section of a library, holding a comic book filled with inappropriate and over-sexualized imagery. Worst of all, it wasn’t a mistake. This comic good is marketed for kids.

I explain the full story in the following video blog, where I reveal more shocking images of the French Canadian comic book called “Les Nombrils,” which means “The Bellybuttons” in French.

Seeing a child I care about exposed to this kind of content not by accident, but because some governmental entity judges it as appropriate for them, made me realize just how severe this problem has become. Throughout their entire childhood, children are bombarded with sexual messages, day in and day out, at lightning speed from nearly every direction. Now, it turns out we have libraries to worry about too—the one place I still assumed would have somewhat of a more positive influence on the youth.

If you like what I had to say, subscribe to my Youtube channel and follow Uplifted Life


When our culture is moving towards that kind of direction, it is our responsibility to walk the opposite way. It is our responsibility to do the best that we can to filter out these kinds of messages from our households and remind our children of the values that are truly important in life. If the culture we live in doesn’t reflect what we know deep down to be true, it’s our job to speak the truth louder than the junk we’re being fed. It’s our job to create a better culture by example. To do so, we need to begin within our own sphere of influence—our own families. We can’t forget that kids are in fact the future, and the most powerful way to change the world is by raising children who are empowered, self-aware, grounded in positive values and capable of discerning truth from deception. It is these kinds of people that can change the world. It is these kinds of people that are able to think bigger than themselves and care about solving problems. If we let the current culture raise our kids for us, I fear that the next generation might grow into a society of broken adults rather than the healers and change-makers we so desperately need.

Although this situation is very alarming to me, I’m far from being a defeatist. I made this video not to scream doom and gloom, but to remind ourselves of our power in choosing who and how we want to be in this world. Humanity is filled with goodness and although we need to be aware of the problem to stop being a part of it, we most importantly need to be part of the solution!

Josh Radnor From How I Met Your Mother Just Started A Conscious Band with Ben Lee

You might be here because you are a fan of the hit TV show, How I Met Your Mother, or maybe you have fond memories of blasting “Catch My Disease” in your car on a hot summer day. Whatever the reason may be, you are about to discover a lesser-known side to actor-writer-director Josh Radnor and Australian singer-songwriter Ben Lee—who now form the musical duo Radnor & Lee.

In this very first episode of Uplifted Life’s new Redefining Success Podcast, Kosta Stoyanoff and I had the privilege of having a conversation with both of them over Skype only a few days before they left for their Brazil tour. We talked about their new musical venture, the effects of having achieved success and fame at a young age, what true success ought to be, spirituality, meditation, self-development and more! Playing the hosts was definitely out of our comfort zones, but we are glad we did it and were able to extract some valuable insights from these two amazing human beings.

There is a rumor circulating that they are a religious born again band because they don’t shy away from using words like word God in their lyrics. The truth is that they do not subscribe to any particular label and are simply fascinated by life’s bigger questions. In our 30-minute conversation with them, we found them to be incredibly grounded, intelligent and wise individuals who simply strive to get back to the basics of what really matters in life and care about becoming the best and most compassionate version of themselves. It was awesome to chat with two public figures who choose to use their influence to spread a positive and conscious message through their art!

Our intention with the Redefining Success Podcast is to collect gems of wisdom from individuals who see beyond our culture’s materialistic idea of success and have discovered a more fulfilling, whole and healthy view of what it means to lead a truly successful life. We believe that doing our part in helping rewrite the cultural story surrounding success can inspire a positive change in how we lead our lives—from our relationships to the way we do business.

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Hope you enjoy the conversation and make sure to share it to inspire others!

Redefining Success: Josh Radnor & Ben Lee

You might know Josh Radnor from How I Met Your Mother and Ben Lee for his unforgettable hit songs, but do you know they also form the band Radnor & Lee and have a profound message to share with the world?Check out the very first episode of our new Redefining Success Podcast where we talk about their new musical venture, the effects of having achieved success and fame, what true success ought to be, spirituality, self-development and more!Our intention with the Redefining Success Podcast is to collect gems of wisdom from individuals who see beyond our culture's materialistic idea of success and have discovered a more fulfilling, whole and healthy view of what it means to lead a truly successful life. We believe that doing our part in helping rewrite the cultural story surrounding success can inspire a positive change in how we lead our lives—from our relationships to the way we do business.Like Uplifted Life for more uplifting content and stay tuned for more episodes! ?

Posted by Uplifted Life on Thursday, January 18, 2018

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Probably The Most Important Message For Mankind At This Time

Yes, humanity faces a lot of problems. Yes, there are “bad guys” out there. It may seem like the only thing to do is fight against the dark — and there sure is value in standing for what is right while setting firm boundaries against what isn’t. But before crying out and letting rage fill our hearts, it is so important that we understand this one basic, fundamental Truth. A Truth so significant that — if forgotten — will greatly dim the light, power, and momentum in our efforts to change the world. If we do apply this Truth, however, the ripple effect it will create will carry on for generations to come.

You’ll understand why after watching the video down below, in which Kosta Stoyanoff, founder of Uplifted Life, brilliantly explains how simple, yet how easily overlooked, this key ingredient for world change is.

As of now, it seems that all eyes are focused on the problems “out there.” Whether we follow Trump’s every tweet, the latest #pizzagate update, or feel helpless in the face of the wars and violence going on in the Middle East, it is understandable to feel bogged down and heavy. It is easy to feel both angry and powerless. But is there a more powerful and potent way to have a positive impact out there, other than stomping our feet and pumping our fists? We are well aware of the problem, yet it can be difficult to even know what to do with all this awareness of the problem, and the emotion that comes with it.

I hope that the message presented in this video will help remind us all of where our true power and responsibility lies. It is in forgetting this Truth that the world came to be this way in the first place, so it is crucial that we remember it and apply it as we begin to move in a new direction.

P.S. This totally applies in our efforts to change our own personal lives as well!

Please share this with your loved ones if you believe in the importance of this message!

Be The Light

Yes, humanity faces a lot of problems. Yes, there are "bad guys" out there. It may seem like the only thing to do is fight against the dark. But before pumping your fist with rage in your heart… take a few minutes of your time to watch this.This, is how we change the world for generations to come.Share to help remind others of their true power!Uplifted Life ?

Posted by Uplifted Life on Thursday, 14 September 2017

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Advice From A Nutritionist: Forget About The “Perfect Diet”

There’s a health revolution happening in the world. Humanity is growing increasingly aware of how health isn’t just a matter of having your regular checkup at the doctor’s office, or popping pills as soon as your body demands your attention. As the father of medicine, Hippocrates, said so eloquently, “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.”

Today, we have hundreds of health movements pointing toward different whole food diets for achieving health. Sounds great! But the problem is, so many of these diets contradict each other and even tear each other apart, claiming that they are the only “healthy” diet most suitable for the human species. They have become sort of like religions, with many of their followers warning others about their “descent to hell” if they don’t eat exactly like they do.

Having struggled with health issues, I have gone the route of researching obsessively and growing more and more confused about all the conflicting health and diet information I was discovering. I found myself so torn between which diet to adopt that I felt paralyzed, too scared to take any step forward. This unhealthy relationship with food led me to an eating disorder — dancing in between deprivation due to fear of symptoms and of eating the “wrong” foods, and binging due to my body screaming to be fed. That is when I realized that there had to be a better way, a more truthful perspective and approach to health — one that wouldn’t have my entire life and attention revolve around diet. One that would add to my enjoyment of life, instead of causing me to micromanage my every move and bring more anxiety into my body and mind.

What does health really mean? Is there such a thing as the “best” diet? Is our search for the post pristine and purist diet realistic or even helpful?

I am currently being coached by Samantha Lotus, a wonderful nutritionist who knows all too well the confusion I have been going through because she has experienced the very same thing through her own healing journeyIn the following video, she sheds light on what it truly means to eat in a healthy way and does a wonderful job of explaining how futile it is to debate over which diet is best. 

If you are someone who strives to follow a healthy diet and isn’t interested in telling the whole world they should eat like you, the information shared in this video will complement your journey wonderfully! If, however, you like to think that every human being should eat like you and believe that only a puritan lifestyle is healthy, you might be triggered by this video.

I hope her insights will help uplift your own journey toward health and bring you more peace of mind as you savour your next meals! ?

Samantha’s Website:

RealLifeButBetter.com

“Not-Enoughitis” Why Do So Many Of Us Always Feel That There Is Something Missing?

The current definition of success goes something like this: Hustle hard. Sacrifice. Reach for the top. Push harder. Don’t slow down. Keep your eye on the prize. Happiness is at the finish line.

The thing is, we know by now that even some the richest, most successful “hustlers” out there can end up depressed, burnt out, full of anxiety, with no time to enjoy their lives, and without the satisfaction they believed their success would bring. So what’s wrong with this picture? What is it that we are missing? Isn’t it time we redefine success?

We Have Forgotten Life’s Operating Manual

Feeling like we can never relax and enjoy our lives just yet doesn’t happen because we haven’t accomplished our goals. Feeling light, expansive, and playful isn’t supposed to be a distant childhood memory. When our lives start to feel heavy instead of light, and our being feels contracted rather than expansive, it isn’t because “that’s just how life is.” It is because in one way or another, we are living out of alignment with the fundamental principles of Life.

Life may not come with an operating manual on paper, but it absolutely exists. Just like a flower is imbedded with the intelligence and know-how to blossom in the right environment, we humans also hold the inner potential and knowing that would allow us to effortlessly grow and thrive in every aspect of our lives. We simply have forgotten it behind the pile of clutter, baggage, and limiting stories we choose to believe instead!

“Truth, like gold, is to be obtained not by its growth, but by washing away from it all that is not gold.”

– Leo Tolstoy

The following video features Kosta Stoyanoff of Uplifted Life, who completely debunks the old story of success and replaces it with one that will resonate with the very core of your being. Are you ready to make the shift? Have you already?

 

New Expedition Tours Sustainable Projects in Costa Rica

Article by: Zander Hathaway


Amidst the majestic coastal mountains, epic waterfalls, and warm beaches of Costa Rica, the first Sustainable Living Expedition was, for me, the educational adventure of a lifetime, and there are many more on the horizon.

As a member of the team, my role was to provide hospitality, accompany guests on excursions, and write about our collective experience. Fortunately, the entire eight-day event, from February 27th to March 6th, was very well organized, and everyone seemed to have a wonderful time.

Alexander Hill, a nutritionist from New York City, described the event as “an incredible week of valuable information and wisdom for a new paradigm.”

Designed by social benefit organization Upward Spirals, the program helps guests create action plans for transitioning to a more sustainable way of living. Field trips to nearby projects showcase both innovative and low-tech systems of renewable energy generation, natural building, food forestry, organic farming, holistic education, regenerative business, and community development. Local experts provide valuable knowledge and practical experience with demonstrations and hands-on workshops.

At the end of the experience, participants are equipped with a flash drive containing an extensive sustainability learning library with thousands of guides, plans, tools, and other digital resources to assist them in creating a regenerative future. By empowering visitors with systemic solutions while supporting local projects, the Expedition strengthens the local economy and ecosystems worldwide.

What Is Upward Spirals?

Upward Spirals is a nonprofit regenerative think tank and consulting company making it easier to live in balance with nature. We do this by building tools, templates, how-to guides, business plans, and social benefit programs that accelerate the co-creation of a sustainable society.

The Diamante Solution Center was established by Upward Spirals to accelerate the creation of an ecologically harmonious world by hosting wellness and educational events, developing local sharing economies, supporting organic food systems, and systematically empowering all organizations engaged in building a regenerative society. All profits are reinvested into social benefit programs to support regenerative economic development.

Other projects by Upward Spirals include the Costa Rica Learning Calendar, Organic Directory, Community Days, Social Enterprise Development and Regenerative Business Optimization.

The Diamante Valley is located between San Isidro and Dominical in Southern Pacific Costa Rica, one of the most biodiverse places in the world and home to an incredible number of ecotourism, reforestation, conservation, and permaculture projects. The valley extends southward from the epic Tinamaste ridge to the confluence of two pristine watersheds, featuring the spectacular 200-meter Diamante Waterfall and the massive double-cascading Baru Waterfalls.

The Center encompasses 55 acres of lush rainforest, organic gardens, hundreds of fruit trees, and comfortable accommodations, with direct access to the top of Baru Falls, a peaceful river upstream, natural swimming pools, and stunning views of the wildlife corridor below and sunset over the coastal mountains.

The Adventure Begins

As the guests arrived, Murray Dodds, a DJ from Edmonton, Alberta, described his first impression as, “like stepping into a tropical paradise with an astounding river, waterfalls, and fruit trees.”

Murray and several others had just attended the nearby Envision Festival and were exhausted upon arrival. We welcomed everyone with open arms and a nourishing lunch. After a brief orientation, some guests rested in hammocks, others recharged in the the river, and Asja Music, head chef and yoga instructor at Diamante Center, prepared a delicious dinner with local, organic ingredients. Later in the evening, we gathered around the campfire for an opening circle to get to know each other better.

In the mornings, Asja taught yoga on the rainforest deck while I prepared breakfast. We enjoyed most lunches off-site during excursions and returned in the evenings to a delightful array of dinners by Asja that participants raved about.

Jennie-Rose Saunders, an environmental scientist from Ventura California, joyfully exclaimed, “This is some of the best food I’ve ever had!”

Beyond the phenomenal cuisine, guests were also impressed by the beautiful setting and amenities, professional service, hands-on learning, and valuable lifelong connections.

Miles Radin, Interpretive Naturalist for Yosemite National Park, shared, “Words cannot describe how much I learned in eight days with the Upward Spirals team. Their organization brought me to places I otherwise never would have found, and introduced me to pioneers of sustainability I otherwise never would have met.”

The Schedule

Our daily flow of activities was generally as follows:

  • 5:30 am — yoga and meditation
  • 7:00 am — breakfast
  • 8:30 am — depart for first destination
  • 9:00 am — workshop or presentation
  • 1:00 pm — lunch
  • 2:00 pm — second destination or follow-up discussion
  • 5:00 pm — return to the Center
  • 6:00 pm — dinner
  • 7:30 pm — campfire

The Destinations

  • Vida Auténtica: After visiting the local farmers market, Feria Tinamaste Agricultura, Melissa Sweet explained how her non-profit organization has evolved from educating farmers about organic agriculture, to building greenhouses for their graduates, to establishing the farmers market. In just three years, it has grown to include an astounding variety of fresh food, artisan products, and professional services. Vida Autentica has since started an annual Seed Exchange and led a grassroots movement that successfully banned the use of toxic agrochemicals in public spaces countywide.
  • Veganissimo: Paulo Paris shared how he prepares his nut/seed-based vegan foods to sell at the market and local stores, and how he grew his small business to support the wellbeing of his family, community, and environment.
  • M & B Organico: Master organic farmers Bolivar and Marjorie brought us on a tour of their organic food production and distribution business. On a relatively small quarter acre, they grow enough food to feed their family and friends, sell at market, and deliver to nearby organic restaurants. The robust health and diversity of plants in their greenhouse was a testament to the efficacy of organic agriculture.
  • Diamante Center: The tour of our home base was led by local guide Tim Johnson, along with Travis Britzke, permaculture adviser for the center and founder of Regenesis2020. We learned how the land was regenerated from clear-cut cattle pasture to a thriving food forest, and how sustainable structures were built from repurposed and renewable materials on site. We also considered the practical factors guiding the ongoing development of infrastructure.
  • Estrella Azul: Founders Roguer Kehler and Chantelle Mironuck told the captivating story of how their young family transitioned from Canada to Costa Rica and converted a deforested property into a thriving homestead with microhydro electricity, food production, and site-appropriate structures. They also shared how they became stewards for the local holistic school and are now connecting with more families in this developing community.
  • La Joya del Sol: Renowned raw food chef, health coach, and expert arborist Eric Rivkin offered an amazing in-depth tour of his 167-acre off-grid homestead, featuring food production, reforestation areas, and renewable energy systems. After a delightful lunch demo, he taught the group about the personal, societal, and environmental benefits of a raw vegan diet.
  • Association Community Carbon Trees (ACCT): Jennifer Smith, the inspiring founder of this innovative nonprofit reforestation project, shared how her business model benefits the community, landowners, workers, volunteers, donors, and most importantly, the interconnected ecosystems around the world. While on site, we planted seeds and saplings to join over half a million diverse rainforest trees that Jenny’s team has planted near the equator.
  • Rusty Café: Nikki Rademacher and Alonso Jimenez welcomed us with delicious local organic food and shared their vision for a conscious restaurant serving and connecting the community.
  • Upward Spirals: Co-founder and sustainability strategist Eric Baudry, who co-developed the Expedition with HappE Roberts, led an eye-opening discussion on how the declining economy systematically converts nature and communities into financial commodities, and how we can use regenerative economics to create an ecologically balanced and socially just society.
  • Fuente Verde Organic Farm Community: Travis Britzke, who is also the farm manager at Fuente Verde, led a tour focused on turning degraded lands into a thriving community. We visited their restaurant at the SomerTime Inn for an outstanding lunch, followed by a panel discussion on ecovillage living at Upward Spirals headquarters.

Bringing Sustainable Living Back Home

On the last full day, we stayed at the Diamante Center for our closing session and final workshop on practical transition planning. After distributing the flash drives containing one of the world’s largest libraries of sustainability resources, tools, and guides, Eric and HappE met with guests individually to provide guidance for their personal projects. With their new wealth of knowledge, experience, and connections, participants were inspired and empowered to take action.

According to Eric, “We need to make it easier to live in balance with nature. People are ready to live closer to each other and in harmony with their environment. By showing them successful, thriving examples, we’re facilitating individual and societal transitions, creating local and global impacts. By simplifying complex sustainability challenges and solutions, including realistic paths to implementation, we’re making it easier to build a more beautiful future.”

Aychele Szot, a natural skin care artisan from Montreal, Quebec, expressed, “This experience helped me to understand and have a taste of what it is to live in harmony with nature.”

Brian Claypool, a health coach from San Diego, California, shared, “What an epic expedition! I feel so blessed to be with such beautiful souls, uniting in common purpose to create a regenerative culture. Inspired by the energy, wealth of information, resources, and connections we made, I’m ready to implement what I have learned in all areas of my life.”

It is a joy and an honour to be of service to such an impactful program with such integral values, innovative projects, and amazing people. I am most grateful for the guests who made this first Expedition so much fun, especially with the impromptu dance parties that broke out as our caravan arrived at certain destinations. By the end of the week, our group felt like one big family, and the Diamante Center, our home away from home.Returning to his farm in Denver, Colorado, Derrick Mulcahy reflected, “I came to learn more about organic farming and sustainable building practices; to see how a community could be laid out and designed. I left with more love for myself, my fellow humans, the Earth, and all its creatures.”

To get a glimpse into the Sustainable Living Expedition experience, watch the video here or below. To create a custom expedition for your group, please see the info page here. For more information about the venue, visit DiamanteCenter.com.

Article by: Zander Hathaway

8 Ways Spiritual People May Be Fooling Themselves

Who is more aligned with their path of spiritual evolution?

  • A person sitting in a lotus position, taking deep breaths and in perfect composure?
  • Or a person curled up in a ball, crying hysterically?

If we base our answer on everything we have learned from “new age” philosophies and most spiritual teachings out there, I think it’s fair to say that the person meditating wins. He/she appears peaceful, at ease, and detached. Now I’m not about to “shock” you and say that the opposite is true. But I would argue that this image is just that: an image.

This is why:

Even the most peaceful, composed, and “spiritually correct” person in the world can be completely out of alignment with themselves, even more than someone who isn’t into spirituality at all. How come? Well… because of our tendency to be dishonest with ourselves. I say this from experience: no amount of sophisticated spiritual jargon has been able to aid my evolution more than an honest look at my raw, vulnerable self.

P.S. I don’t mean to say that all spiritual people fool themselves. These are simply traps that I have noticed are common in the spiritual community, and which I myself have fallen for on occasion.


HERE ARE 8 WAYS SPIRITUAL PEOPLE CAN FOOL THEMSELVES:


 1. I Have To Feel Good And Stay Positive All The Time

Translation: I’m terrified of feeling pain.

This belief is quite common among the “positive thinking” community. Now there is nothing wrong with thinking positively, but using the power of thought to gloss over any surfacing negative emotions is one of the biggest blocks to our spiritual growth. Why? Because what our souls actually desire is to become whole again. And this means reconnecting with all the fragmented aspects of ourselves (fears, negative beliefs, past emotional traumas) we have dissociated from so that we may acknowledge and transform them.

Newsflash: That’s NOT going to happen if we continually avoid and suppress them. It’s not going to happen if we perceive them as enemies and invaders. The truth is, each and every painful emotion that is surfacing in our lives is like a child in distress. When we repress them, it is as if we purposely lock this child self into a room, forcing it to relive a trauma alone and behind closed doors while we look the other way. In other words, it is self-abuse.

“That’s the thing about pain. It demands to be felt.”

– John Green

Being completely emotionally honest with ourselves takes bravery. It means putting ourselves right into the very emotions we have spent our lives shielding ourselves from feeling again. But once you allow yourself to feel and release what is stored inside of you, you are basically letting your brain and body know that it is now safe to feel, that you are no longer in the scary situation that created the trauma in the first place, and that you are now ready to learn from it and and move on to better things.

It can help to have a friend or an animal holding space for you while you release emotion, because it is important to feel safe. You will find that when you make it a habit to feel and release the emotional charges that are stuck in your body, the lightness you will feel will be more worth it than all the effort put into avoiding and suppressing!

P.S. If there were really something wrong about feeling all ranges of emotions… your soul wouldn’t have chosen to incarnate in a body capable of feeling them all!


2. I Behave Spiritually, Therefore I Am Growing Spiritually!

Translation: I’m really just scared and confused. So I’ll keep repeating “love n’ light!”

Many spiritual people believe that a “spiritual” behavior is all that is required to be on the “spiritual” path; that if you say loving words, follow spiritual principles, and act like Jesus, you’re pretty much enlightened. Well… let me just say that the most emotionally wounded and ‘in-denial-about-it’ people I have ever met had a very strong spiritual ethic and personality. I know because I have been one of them.

Spiritual people often fall into the trap of using their understanding of spiritual concepts to feel like they are above emotions and duality. This defeats the whole purpose of our soul, which is to learn from emotions and duality through our own felt experience — not just through theory!

“Spiritual Bypassing: A term first coined by author John Welwood. The spiritual bypass is the tendency to jump to spirit prematurely, usually in an effort to avoid various aspects of earthly reality (practical challenges, unresolved emotions and memories). The bypass has many symptoms – the starry-eyed bliss trip, radical detachment from one’s self-identifications, premature forgiveness, ungrounded behaviors, wish-full thinking etc.”

– Jeff Brown

There is a purpose and lesson behind every emotion and feeling, and simply adjusting and focusing on our behavior prematurely is pulling us away from where our greatest learning is.


3. I Use Self-Conviction To Make Me Feel Like I’m On The Right Path

Translation: I’d rather live through the safe stories I tell myself than trust my intuition.

Have you ever noticed yourself going overkill with grand speeches and declarations of why something is right (or wrong) for you, whether it be a “twin flame,” a job, or a new year’s resolution? Now that doesn’t mean it must necessarily be wrong for you, just like it doesn’t mean it must be right. It just means that using self-conviction is a process of mental rationalization, not of intuition.

When we do this, we are much more likely to fool ourselves into something that doesn’t align with our true self. No big deal though, because following through on a choice that is out of alignment will eventually teach us that we are better off trusting and being honest with our intuition and feelings — a lesson that usually gets learned once our illusion crashes.

Many times, I have convinced myself of things to make me feel “good” about a decision or situation despite a nagging suspicion that something isn’t right. And many times, I have screwed myself! So now, I do my best to follow my intuition instead of getting lost in my mind. The best part is, when we stop fooling ourselves, we automatically become more honest with others. This guarantees more fulfilling relationships and the dissolution of fake ones!

“Our lives improve only when we take chances and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.”

– Walter Anderson

The tricky part is that sometimes, our intuition leads us directly toward a choice that would make us face a fear or difficult emotion, which is precisely why we often rationalize ourselves out of taking the leap of faith. That’s why following our intuition often requires courage. Although I promise you… the maturity, wisdom, alignment, and freedom gained from following it is always worth it in the end!

“You get your intuition back when you make space for it, when you stop the chattering of the rational mind.”

– Anne Lamott


4. I Preach When I Feel On Top Of My Game, But Blame When Triggered

Translation: I’ve got Issues.

We reaaaaaally need to get off our high horses, or perhaps I should say, our “spiritual unicorns.” Sure, preaching may make us look wise and majestic for a while, but at what cost? At the cost of not ACTUALLY evolving. It prevents us from truly growing and maturing from the inside out. Now it doesn’t mean we can’t offer valuable wisdom even if we still deal with personal issues. But we shouldn’t wear our wise insights like a badge, only to resist growth when it’s our turn to feel vulnerable. 

We should actually embrace it when our foundation gets shaken. Many of us think we must fight to stay on our comfortable throne, yet little expansion and joy exists there. True expansion and joy happens when we embrace the fact that our vulnerability connects us all.

We’re all human, and we’re all vulnerable. Imagine how warm, compassionate, and friendly this world would be if we weren’t so busy hiding, suppressing, and feeling shame for the things we all learn and experience! In such a reality, anyone acting preachy and denying their own vulnerability would actually be the odd ones.

Being transparent is scary, I know. But the RIGHT people will LOVE you for being real, for being you. It’s always the wrong people that love you for your image.


5. I Use Spiritual Perspectives To Bypass Human Emotions (THIS ONE IS KEY!)

Translation: I want to get to my destination quickly and bruise free. I resist and devalue the journey towards it.

This is something I’ve done quite a bit, and with the best intention. Of course I want to remind myself that everything happens for a reason when I feel hurt and heartbroken after a difficult breakup. Of course I want to remind myself that every soul is made of love when I believe that I shouldn’t feel anger or rage toward someone who has betrayed me. But this is a HUGE problem among the spiritual community: the belief in shoulds and shouldnt’s when it comes to emotions. The belief that anger, fear, and grief aren’t as much a part of our spiritual progress as feelings of love and transcendence.

The thing is, we actually ARE headed toward a state of consciousness where we can feel the beauty and value of every challenge and every soul. But every single one of the emotions that come up along the way should be valued as stepping stones, each containing a valuable lesson designed to bring us closer to that state.

“Anger is a river. It wants to be released into the vaster ocean. It wants to move naturally. When we repress it with premature forgiveness, block it with false positivity, repress it in the name of pseudo-peace, we just dam(n) our natural flow. The river then turns inward, against the self, or explodes outwardly, against innocents. Better we express it when it is in our awareness – not in a way that is destructive to humanity – but in a way that is authentic and that restores the integrity of our being. Anger isn’t the enemy. Misplaced anger is. Let the river flow…”

– Jeff Brown

The truth is, anger, fear, and grief can be amazing catalysts for change and transformation when embraced. For example, anger is a very potent energy to get you moving and clear up the clutter in your life, whether it be toxic people, situations, or limiting beliefs. It doesn’t need to be destructive or vengeful; it is a fire that should be used to fuel positive action. Once you have made the appropriate changes, you no longer need it and can move to a higher vibration.

Fear is also a valuable emotion. It points you to another layer of your being that needs peeling so that you may experience greater freedom past it. It shows you where your growth is. Grief thrusts us into our deepest wounds of separation so that we may find ourselves again. It has the power to shatter our illusions and reconnect us with what truly matters.

So go ahead and feel it all! You are not alone in this.

“Real shadow work does not leave us intact; it is not some neat and tidy process, but rather an inherently messy one, as vital and unpredictably alive as birth. The ass it kicks is the one upon which we are sitting; the pain it brings up is the pain we’ve been fleeing most of our life; the psychoemotional breakdowns it catalyzes are the precursors to hugely relevant breakthroughs; the doors it opens are doors that have shown up year after year in our dreams, awaiting our entry. Real shadow work not only breaks us down, but breaks us open.”

– Sera Beak, Red Hot and Holy


6. I Can Talk/Read About Spiritual Growth All Day, Yet Avoid Using My Own Life As My Teacher

That’s kind of like reading a bunch of video game strategy guides, but never actually playing. The actual fun, the “levelling up” and the progression, happen as you play it! 

Many spiritual people understand the mechanics of personal and spiritual growth like the backs of their hands. I’m pretty knowledgable about it myself. I know that we create our own reality, that life is literally a reflection of the thoughts, emotions, and energy we put out, and I even know the science behind it. So it’s sort of ironic that I still sometimes manage to remove myself from this equation. I sometimes believe myself to be a victim of circumstances and slip into a passive attitude toward my life, ignoring my own guidance and cues to move forward. This usually happens when I forget that my life itself IS my purpose and mirrors what is necessary for me to evolve.

Our lives are meant to be lived, our feelings are meant to be felt, and our challenges are meant to be learned from. All of our experiences — internal and external — are like quests in a video game, designed to bring us to the next level. So let’s play!

“If we can live life consciously and authentically—understanding that things do not happen to us, but rather for us—we can use everything that comes into our lives to our benefit. We can locate all the barriers that keep us from beauty, love, abundance, intimacy, joy and good health.”

– Erin Lanahan


7. I Have Found The Truth! Let Me Anchor That In Forever And Shut Down Any New Perspectives

Translation: I am forgetting that I am a unique, fluid, and ever-changing being on a unique, fluid, and ever-changing path that adapts to what I need to learn in any given moment.

What we need in one stage of our lives may be completely different from what we need in another. What feels right one day may not feel right the next. And there’s a reason for this. We are unique and multi-layered beings. Sometimes, we hit layers that require us to learn commitment and goal-setting. Other times, we hit layers that require us to learn flexibility and “going with the flow.” We may at one time need to learn compassion and softness, while at another time need to learn firmness and resolve.

The problem is when we become set on ideals rather than staying tuned to our intuition (similar to what we talked about in #3). Our paths and lessons adapt to what is best and most important for our evolution. When we get stuck in our minds and adopt a fixed spiritual ideal, we miss out on the actual cues that our feelings, intuition, and life experiences whisper to us.

As much as the truth may very well be that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively and that we are a way for the universe to know itself… well, it seems the universe wants to know itself through very UNIQUE perspectives and paths. We are not meant to live in a synchronized fashion and all move the same, think the same, and feel the same. We are here to be complimentary to one another, much like a puzzle requires unique pieces to create a beautiful image.

8. I Am “So Spiritual,” But Forget To Treat Others Like I’d Want To Be Treated

Translation: I skipped the most basic yet important step to my own spiritual growth, which is to be an expression of love.

It might sound cliché, but Jesus had it right. It doesn’t matter if you have read all the books or mastered all of your spiritual abilities; if you keep all of that magnificent love, generosity, care, and compassion locked in a little cellar within your heart… you have missed the entire point of your spiritual growth. You are still operating out of fear and need to clear out whatever barrier is preventing you from accessing the loving being that you are. The world needs you!

I once met someone who disregarded the importance of love because he believed it was too much of a cliché and cookie-cutter approach to spirituality. What I would say to that person today is that, regardless of how different and unique every flower within a garden may be, you wouldn’t want to water any of them with poison. You would ideally use the purest water to see them thrive and beautify the environment in their own unique way. The same goes with human beings. If there is one universal law that applies to us all, I believe it is that we thrive best in the vibration of love. If we can all strive to grow into more loving, compassionate, and authentic versions of ourselves, what a wonderful world this would be!

“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

? Albert Einstein


I hope these perspectives helped you as much as they helped me! Let’s lead by example and help rid the spiritual community of pretence by being the realest we can be with ourselves and others. It is in our vulnerability and openness that we build the most profound and intimate relationships. It is in feeling what we need to feel that we grow. It is in being authentic that we attract and create a reality that truly matches us. And it is in being love that we create a more loving world!


THE NEW COLLABORATIVE NETWORK FOR THE CONSCIOUS COMMUNITY!