7 Harsh Realities That Come With Taking Full Responsibility For Your Life

“Adulthood” comes to all of us at different times in our life. It has nothing to do with the legal age we can drink, or drive a car, or get married, and it’s not signified by the job we have or the car we drive. It’s a state of mind, a way of operating in the world.

Being a pretty well behaved teen, I often had people tell me from as young as 13 that I was incredibly mature for my age. In some respects, I could not argue with them. I would look at the behaviour of many of my friends and quite easily distinguish that I, for the most part, handled many things far more “responsibly” than they did. But even now, at the ripe old age of 28, I question when and if I ever truly matured.

I may have always acted appropriately, taken school seriously, and respected those around me, but did that qualify me for full-blown adulthood? I certainly thought it did, until about a year ago, when I concluded that the true sign of maturity is when an individual takes full responsibility for their life.

As part of identifying this conclusion (which I know is entirely subjective), I’ve reflected a lot on what comes with this fundamental step in life. Here is my list of 7 seemingly harsh realities that kick in when you decide to take full responsibility for your life:

1. The World Doesn’t Revolve Around You

As much as we may like to think it does, the truth is, we are but a tiny fish in a massive soup of collective consciousness. Does this mean that we are ultimately powerless to create anything that will impact the masses? Absolutely not. But it does mean that we can no longer expect the world to cater to us.

Long gone are the days when parents, teachers, or any other caregiver is going to sit us down and remind us that everything is going to be okay. We need to find that strength within ourselves and go against the grain to create whatever it is that we are passionate about.

2. Your Reactions Are Everything

In the moment, things may happen to us — some far more challenging, scary, or unwanted than others — but regardless of what that thing is, it’s our reaction to it that dictates how much it is going to impact our lives.

For example, there is nothing intrinsically insulting about being called an asshole — we can choose to take it personally, or we can choose to let it roll off our backs. This is why some of us are able to let it go in one ear and out the other while carrying on with our day, while others take it as a punch to the gut and a reason to change their behaviour moving forward.

3. We Can’t All Be Famous

We live in a time when instant fame has never seemed more attainable. The laughing mom in the chewbacca mask is all the evidence we need of this phenomenon. But fame still isn’t in the cards for all of us.

While I’m not suggesting that we stop trying to achieve success, or even that kind of astonishing overnight success, it seems that with maturity we recognize it’s not only not worth pinning our hopes on, but also not really that desireable.

4. We’ve Been Distracting Ourselves a Lot

We all have things to do — emails we avoid writing, conversations we avoid having, and issues we avoid addressing — yet we consistently choose to distract ourselves instead. Whether it be by glorifying how “busy” we are, or by choosing to turn to Netflix instead, part of taking responsiblity for our lives is acknowledging our tendency to distract ourselves.

The more we acknowledge it, the more uncomfortable it becomes, and eventually, it will become so uncomfortable that we finally decide to just take action, and wonder why we didn’t do it before.

5. Haters Gonna Hate

Even if you go out of your way to be a people pleaser (which I would never suggest), there will always be someone or many someones who do not support you. While this is certainly the case throughout all of our lives, it usually isn’t until we enter maturity that we acknowledge this as not only common but acceptable.

In the end, it’s far better to be your true self and let some people hate that, than change who you are and have a bunch of different people hate you anyways.

6. Blaming Doesn’t Get You Anywhere

“He/she did it!” It’s the infamous line we’ve heard so many children say while pointing their finger in the direction of the person they believe should take the fall for whatever happened.

It may have worked, on occasion, throughout our childhood, but part of taking responsibility for your life is actually, you know, taking responsibility for your life. As much as we may feel like victims to certain things, playing the victim card rarely gets us anywhere and instead tends to prolong whatever situation or conflict we’re trying to escape.

7. You Are the Reason Why You Aren’t Where You Want to Be

This one certainly goes hand in hand with the one before it, and is equally as true. If you want to own a multi-million dollar company that earns money for you even while you sleep, you have to start it and stick with it!

Your life is what it is right now because of the collection of decisions you’ve made up to this point. So now is as good a time as any to start making ones that align with what you actually want. You just need to make sure you’re tough enough to handle the fears, challenges, and emotions that are bound to come along the way, and remember, no matter how hard things get, “this too shall pass.”

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Taking Pictures Of What You Are Doing Changes Your Experience Of It

You see it pretty well everywhere you go: whether you are at concert, sports game, touristdestination, or even on something as ordinary as a subway train, there always seems to be at least one person taking a picture.

While this is largely because the majority of us are now walking around with a small and powerful camera in our pocket, there seems to be something else to it. Somewhere along the way it started to become more popular for people to capture and re-watch rather than simply observe or participate.

But does this decision to capture what we are seeing improve or worsen our experience?

Logic would probably lead you to assume the latter, since the act of recording steals at least a portion or our attention, but a recent study seems to suggest otherwise… at least in particular cases.

A  study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology revealed that most individuals felt more engaged in the activity when photography was included.

Spearheaded by Kristin Diehl, PhD (University of Southern California), Gal Zauberman, PhD (Yale University), and Alixandra Barasch, PhD (University of Pennsylvania), the study involved over 2,000 participants. They conducted nine different experiments, all of which involved the subjects participating in an activity and either being asked to take photos throughout or not.

The activities included, but were not limited to: taking a bus tour, eating at a food court, going on a virtual safari, and going through a museum exhibit. Once completed, participants were then asked to complete a survey designed to measure both their enjoyment and engagement in the activity.

Overall, the researchers concluded that in many cases the inclusion of photography helped with engagement, which played a key role in their overall level of enjoyment. This was particularly true in the experiment where participants were asked to take a self-guided tour of a museum exhibit while wearing glasses that tracked their eye movements. Being equipped with the camera led most to spend more time examining the artifacts on display, ultimately making it more enjoyable to them.

However, there were some exemptions to this general conclusion:

  • Including photography did not increase enjoyment levels in activities involving active participation, such as arts and crafts.
  • Photography made the experience worse for those who were asked to capture moments from the virtual safari that some would be averse to watching.

The experiment adds nuance to a seemingly cut-and-dry example of our increasing disengagement with our own lives and experiences.

A Hypothesized Root Cause

Wanting to take this a little deeper, I’ve come up with a possible explanation for why photography seems to have become such an integral part of most of our lives. Aside from those for whom photography is a passion, I think many of us take photos of everything because we are insecure.

We are not comfortable enough with simply being who we are to let the things we do go unnoticed; it’s as if, unless someone acknowledges something we’ve done, it didn’t happen. Our social media feeds are highly curated, littered with photos of us doing exciting things and looking great but rarely ever featuring the ordinary elements of life.

Could we possibly be taking and posting these pictures in hopes of boosting our self-confidence? Or am I taking this theory too far? I’d love to know your thoughts, so please share them with me via the comment section below.



Everyone Is Obsessed With Happiness – Here’s Why It’s Making Us Miserable

What is happiness to you?

Is it quality time on a warm beach with loved ones where the stresses of regular life have shifted themselves quietly into the back of your mind? Or is it owning a multi-million dollar company that runs like clockwork and provides for you and your family even while you sleep?

No matter how you define happiness, one thing remains true: It is completely subjective. Subjective not only to you, but also to every moment in your life. I doubt that if you created a vision board five years ago that your dreams and desires would completely match those of today.

While the pursuit of happiness can certainly be a wonderful motivator, I’ve recently began to question how many of us see it in that way. Are we actually being driven by what we would like to accomplish, or are we looking at our lives and focusing on the difference between what we’d like and how it currently is?

Where We Try to Find and Create Happiness

One of the most common places that we tend to turn to for aid in our pursuit is the world of self-help and personal development. We read books, attend seminars, and complete online courses that are all designed to give us the tools to accomplish our goals and ultimately attain happiness.

As someone who has delved into this world quite substantially, including a very recent binge focused on business growth, I can undoubtedly say that there are a lot of great resources out there. (Find out more.)

The issue doesn’t lie in the content itself, but rather in how we apply it. A number of the life coaching greats, including Tony Robbins, have openly admitted how much of their continued success is contingent upon us not dedicating to and applying what they offer.

How many times have you found yourself incredibly inspired by a personal development principle the moment you processed it, only to let it dwindle from your life a mere week later?

Perhaps if we actually stuck with these teachings, we’d not only attain much of what we are striving for, but also realize that happiness is a lot simpler than we realize or are willing to accept.

Simplifying Happiness

Take the time right now to ask yourself two questions:

  1. What is happiness to me?
  2. What makes me happy?

Chances are that your answer to question one was far more elaborate than what you (probably quickly) listed off for question two.

When asked to describe happiness we tend to imagine a state of being we need to somehow not only create but sustain. But when we shorten the word to happy, we list off far more simple experiences and preferences that emotionally trigger a pleasant frame of mind, even if just for a fleeting second.

Things such as quality time with a pet, cuddling with a loved one, and watching a favourite sports team can all make us happy, but fall short in filling the void to sustained happiness.

Rather than focusing on the pieces to what we feel will provide us with eternal happiness, perhaps we should instead focus on making consistent time for what makes us happy. Having done this for a little while now, I find that it not only improves my daily mood, but has also gone a long way toward bringing me closer to accomplishing a lot of what I want in the grander scheme of things.

Should We Strive for Peace Instead?

How many things currently in your life did you once desire? Whether it be a loving partner, a job that provides for you, or a place to call home, we’ve all accomplished at least one of our once-seen-as-keys to happiness.

Having accomplished that, are you satisfied with yourself and in a state of happiness? The likely answer is no, because as I briefly alluded to above, the pursuit of happiness is a continual chase rather than a concrete state of being.

Look at the lives of celebrities, athletes, and business moguls who have all far exceeded most of what we believe would make us happy. Are any of them truly satisfied with where they are? Or are they just as troubled and lost as we are?

As part of the process in making consistent time for what makes you happy, choose to pursue peace instead. Peace comes from within, and can be attained and sustained much more easily.

Finding peace includes appreciating where you currently are in life, valuing the tools you have available to you, and approaching the future guided by your passions rather than heavy needs.

For further insight, I encourage you all to check out a video put together earlier this year outlining 8 Mental Shifts To Help Trigger Success & Happiness.

6 Brutal Lies You Need To Stop Telling Yourself If You Want To Get Your Sh*T Together

We’re all liars.

Yes, even if you pride yourself on your honesty, I know with absolute confidence that there is a metaphorical lying bone within you, and it’s likely a lot bigger than you think.

You may not lie to others, but you most certainly lie to yourself. But don’t worry — we all do it, myself included, and that’s why I’ve put together a list of six of the most common lies we tend to tell ourselves and the consequences that come along with believing them.

Keep in mind that the purpose behind this article is not to make you feel dishonest, but to instead help you realize some of the things you may unnecessarily believe, giving you an opportunity to change it and hopefully improve your life.

Here are the six lies we love to tell ourselves, in both video and written form:

1. I Was Born That Way

When used to express pride for a particular character trait, talent, or way of being that you embody, the belief that you were born that way can be a healthy one to have. But the usage that I’m referring to is the refusal to be open to a presented change, or the justification of a particular behaviour, simply because this is how you believe that you have always been.

Even if you have maintained certain beliefs for an extended period of time, you’re also changing, learning, and growing every single day, so stop holding so firmly onto what you think represents you. I’m not suggesting you make a complete 180 on your way of being; I am simply encouraging you to remain open-minded to change.

Consequences: Close-mindedness, excessive stubbornness, and the risk of living your life in a particularly small comfort zone.

2. It’s a Dog-Eat-Dog World

While we may not use this particular lingo, what it represents is the belief that everyone is inherently selfish and as a result is always out to get you. In the business world in particular, there may be a plethora of examples to support this belief, but there are just as many, if not more, to suggest the opposite.

I’m not suggesting that you instead openly trust everyone and act recklessly, but rather that you don’t allow this belief to make you close yourself off to others and feel like you need to do everything on your own. There are many people in this world who not only love you, but would also love to see you and your ideas thrive. Approach decisions from a balanced perspective rather than one steeped in the belief that everyone is trying to screw you over.

Consequences: Untrusting, loneliness, and rudeness as a way of guarding yourself against perceived enemies.

3. You Can’t Change the World

Before you overreact, I’m not suggesting that we can all change the world’s way of being on a particular matter single-handedly. But I am referring to the excessive number of times that so many us shut down creative ideas or don’t pursue and/or partake in projects to help the world simply because we feel powerless.

Yes, we are each a tiny fish in a big sea, but so were some of the most influential figures in history. Don’t worry — I’m not expecting you to immediately get up on your soapbox and start screaming in support of your favourite cause, but I am expecting you to realize that you always have the power to change your perspective toward the world, which in essence does change the world, since your perspective is the only one you know.

Consequences: Laziness, disempowerment, and the murder of countless wonderful ideas.

4. I’ll Start Tomorrow/Next Week/Next Month

This one certainly requires the least explanation and is also the one that we are all likely guilty of believing the most. Whether it be a dietary change, a lifestyle overhaul, or even just a simple task that has helped to populate our daily to-do list for months, we love putting things off for another day.

While it’s unrealistic to expect ourselves to accomplish everything we’d like to do in a single calendar day, the problem arises when we keep putting certain things off for the perpetual tomorrow. You’ll never be younger or more capable of doing whatever it is that you keep putting off than you are today, so start reinstating the belief that you should take action now!

Consequences: Unhealthy habits maintained and a lack of drive.

5. I’m Going to Look Stupid If __________

If everything we did involved nobody else and would never be seen by anyone, we’d all be amazing at acting on our intuition and being ourselves. But instead, thanks in large part to the internet, things have gone in the opposite direction and our lives have never been more on display.

The result is that we let self-consciousness filter our decision-making and hold us back from being ourselves out of a fear of being ridiculed. If doing something is truly important to you, finding the courage to do it may seem difficult, but it’s far easier than living the rest of your life sheltered in fear of judgement.

Consequences: Overthought, giving your power to others, and not being your true self.

6. It’s Too Late

If only you had realized this earlier.

You are past your prime.

There is no point now.

The next generation will have to take care of it.

No matter how you word it or how old you are, we all seemingly love to put certain things in our mental waste basket based on the simple belief that our time to do it has already passed. While this may be the case with certain age-restricted accomplishments, most of what we cast aside can still be done at the ripe old age of whatever you currently are.

The world is filled with example of late bloomers who have accomplished so much in this world, so stop writing yourself off and go after your dreams!

Consequences: Pessimism and regret.

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The Fastest Ways To Help Manage Fear & Anxiety During Challenging Times

Amidst these unprecedented times it should come as no surprise that an increasing number of us find ourselves battling fear and anxiety.

For those that resonate with the mainstream story, the fear likely revolves around ourselves or a loved one catching this rapidly spreading virus, and we therefore have anxiety surrounding everything we interact with in any capacity. While for those who buy into one of the seemingly endless alternative perspectives, the fear and anxiety are likely connected to what draconian measures are to potentially come of this.

Regardless of which side you fall on, or if you believe yourself to be somewhere in between, I’d like to focus on practical tools that we can all use to help keep both our fear and anxiety at bay. Not only to assist us mentally and emotionally, but to also empower us to better sift through this current situation and find our truth without fear or anxiety leading us astray.

Breathing To Change The Fear Centers of Your Brain

The first tool that I would like to present is a breathing technique for managing fear shared by Joan Borysenko, PhD as part of her filming session for the documentary HEAL. The technique she outlines is designed to calm the central nervous system and help with the release of the neurotransmitter GABA, which directly changes and positively impacts the fear centers of the brain. Learn the full technique by watching this 1 minute and 30 second video:

I’ve personally been utilizing this technique daily for weeks, both to help keep my fear at bay when I feel it arising and as the opening to one of my regular meditation practices. I’ve found it to be incredibly helpful, especially when I’m able to make the air that I am breathing fresh outdoor air rather than largely recycled indoor air.

“Attacking” Your Anxiety With Gratitude

I know that on the surface the idea of utilizing gratitude in any capacity may sound like a “fluffy” or “woo-woo” way to cope with something as overwhelming as fear or anxiety. But as a former severe anxiety sufferer (WATCH MY FULL STORY) I can honestly say that it was one of the most powerful tools I successfully used to regularly conquer my anxiety despite its simplicity.

The idea here is that whenever you find yourself either on the cusp or in the midst of an anxiety attack, to immediately challenge yourself to list off as many things as you can that you are grateful for in life. Initially in these moments your mind may overwhelm you into believing that there really isn’t much, but deep down we ALL, no matter our circumstances, always have plenty to be grateful for in life.

Allow yourself to be broad (example: I am grateful to have a roof over my head) or specific (example: I am grateful for the way my dog Buttons always greets me with so much love and excitement) and to list off as many things as you can come up with, with no filter.

What makes this simple technique so powerful is not only does it actively remind you of the evidently positive factors in your life, but it also preoccupies your mind with a task. It’s this preoccupation that strips your mind away from feeding your fear and anxiety the stories and beliefs that it is not only used to but also fully dependent on to maintain itself in an “attack mode.”

Don’t believe you’ll be able to come up with things that you are grateful for in life? Go through my free list of 100 common gratitude statements for a little inspiration HERE

And if anxiety happens to play a prominent role in your life and you’re ready to put the work in to conquer it more formally for good, then I encourage you to check out my online course The Hack Anxiety Toolbox. The course is filled with over 3 hours of on-demand video and 20 downloadable resources that all share everything I used to successfully conquer my own anxiety. Take the first lesson for free and get lifetime access to the course for only $12.99 USD ($82 off the regular price) by going to THIS LINK before April 30th, 2020.

6 Ways To Make Love To Your Partner Without Having Sex

I’m sure I don’t need to remind most of you of the joys of having sex. Whether you’ve formed your opinion from firsthand experience or have been heavily impacted by the media and pop culture’s obsession with it, sex (and thoughts about sex) seems to be a staple in most of our lives.

But what about making love?

To some of us, it implies a more connective form of sexual intimacy, where those involved are actively seeking a deeper bonding experience, while to others, it’s just another way to say sex, no more meaningful than “hanky panky.”

But viewed from the former perspective, making love certainly sounds like a desirable experience that most partners would seek to have regularly. But is that level of intimacy restricted to those “perfect” moments between the sheets?

Here are 6 other ways that I believe we can all “make love” with our partner regularly:

1. Work Together

This may sound completely unrealistic at first. Finding a partner to share your life with is challenging enough, so what are the chances that the one we do eventually find will work in the same field that we do?

They don’t have to. Working together could constitute any ongoing project that you are collaborating on for collective success. It could be something as simple as planting and maintaining a garden together, or it could be as involved as taking a secondary job together to supplement your income.

The process of coming together to accomplish something or provide for your family or partnership could not only be rewarding, it could also deepen the romantic bonds you already have.

2. Personally Develop Together

We all know that we are consistently growing in life. While life naturally provides us all with learning experiences, many of us also actively seek ways to empower and better ourselves.

Rather than engaging with self-help or personal development material on your own, why not make it a collaborative experience with your partner?

I recently listened to Your Wish Is Your Command with my girlfriend and was pleasantly surprised by how connective the experience was. We both held each other accountable for the tasks the material posed to us, and have had several connective conversations since, all centred around our personal takeaways from it. If that’s not a form of lovemaking, I don’t know what is.

3. Share Hobbies Together

We all have different interests, and chances are, there are several we boast that our partner couldn’t care less about — and vice versa. While keeping individual interests makes for a healthy relationship, sharing those interests and getting involved can also deepen your connection and offer insight into the other person.

Perhaps you love playing softball, creating pottery, and practicing the violin. Find an introductory level version of one of them for your partner to dabble in with you, in exchange for you doing the same with one of theirs. It might just turn into something fun you can do together.

4. Work Out Together

Along the same lines as number two, there is something particularly connective about activities designed to better our well-being. Rather than hitting the gym or going for an evening jog alone, why not include your partner?

Even if you don’t do the same specific workouts, there is a new level of internal motivation to be experienced when someone you love is doing it alongside you. Want to find ways to make at least some of the exercises into ones you could do together? Explore resources such as Couples Workout: Train Together, Stay Together for some great ideas.

5. Be Grateful Together

Inspired by a recommended exercise I read in the Tony Robbins book Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny, I’ve recently started beginning and ending each day by listing a minimum of ten things I am grateful for, such as:

  • I am thankful for my beautiful niece who makes me smile and reminds me of the simplicity of life.
  • I am thankful to be alive and healthy.
  • I am thankful to be knowledgeable of and to be capable of providing my body with the nourishment it needs.

What better a way to lovingly connect with your partner than to challenge each other to do this together at least once per day? Not only will it be a loving experience rooted in sharing, but it will also root your energetic perspective into the positive.

6. Try New Things Together

One incredible way to grow closer and share a loving experience with your partner is to do something that neither of you has done before. Your collective uncertainty will force you to come together in the experience and possibly even discover something new that you both enjoy.

Even if what you experience by doing any of these is not “making love” by your standards, it’s likely that at least some of them will help you create more of those traditional lovemaking moments (wink wink).

For more brutally honest personal development content designed for those who actually want to change be sure to subscribe to my YouTube Channel and to follow me on Instagram. And to receive my free eBook on 5 Simple Daily Hacks For A Genuinely Happier Life and to be one of the first to find out about the release of my upcoming book click HERE.

5 Unusual Signs Your Partner Is A Keeper

In my opinion, relationships are one of the most interesting aspects of the human experience. When they are going well, they have the ability to take us to the highest of highs, consuming the vast majority of our thought processing as we consistently long to spend more time with this other person. And when they aren’t, they can take us to the lowest of lows, filling us with a cocktail of negative emotions we previously never thought possible.

If you’re currently in a relationship, chances are you clicked on this article because you’re either having some doubts or you’re a sappy romantic looking for some verification of the special thing you know that you’ve found. And if you’re single, chances are you’ve realized that them being physically attractive or having one common interest with you hasn’t proven to be enough to make them worth your time, and you don’t feel like wasting any more.

So, here are my 5 unusual signs to look out for when identifying whether or not you’re in a relationship worth keeping in hopes of doing my part to finally get that divorce rate below 50%:

1. The Past Is Kept In The Past

We all have shady dating histories. Even if we haven’t been in a serious relationship to date, chances are that our self-consciousness has at least led us to fall for someone who we knew was unhealthy for us. One of the best unusual signs that you may have found yourself a keeper is if they’ve learned from their past dating experiences, but keep them where they belong… in the past. Two people learning to co-exist is tricky enough, the last thing either of you need is the ghost of a girlfriend or boyfriend past consistently lingering as baggage on either of your backs.

2. You Celebrate Rather Than Compare Accomplishments

Whether or not you consider yourself an accomplished individual, we all achieve and fail to achieve things over the course of our lives. While some level of comparison may seem quite natural, it typically isn’t very healthy to have it with the person you hope to spend the rest of your life with. Therefore, an unusual positive sign to look out for is someone who genuinely roots for you, and that you in turn also genuinely want the best for.

3. They Accept Your Attraction To Others

While physical attraction is certainly important to some degree, it is undoubtedly blown out of proportion by pop culture. But rather than preaching on how true beauty comes from within, I’d rather address the reality that no matter how attractive you and your partner find each other, you will always also find other people attractive. And one unusual sign of a keeper is if they aren’t threatened by that. Of course that all gets thrown out the window if you actually act upon that attraction, but assuming that it remains strictly visual, a real keeper should know that what you have overpowers even the hottest of the hot.

4. Respect Your Personal Space

We all know those couples that are seemingly attached at the hip. And while that can genuinely work for some, the vast majority of us I believe will always need our personal space. And one thing to look out for is someone who is comfortable taking their own and giving yours to you. It’s in our personal space that we not only allow ourselves to engage with the interests or passions we don’t mutually share with our partner, but that we also come to better appreciate the time we do spend with them after some time apart.

5. You Talk to Each Other About The Bigger Things In Life

While your mother or big sister may always know what to say when the going gets tough, one unusual sign of a keeper is if you both genuinely feel comfortable opening up to each other about the bigger things in life. Whether it’s an issue at work, a mental health challenge, or something that concerns you about the relationship, we need to be able to turn to the person we spend the most time with. Even if they don’t always know what to say, or their advice sucks by comparison to what your bestie has to offer, the ability to be open is fundamental to a happy relationship.

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8 Facts About Life That Will Move You Forward & Improve Yourself

No matter how much we believe we have our “shit” together, life carries many harsh truths, and no matter how much we may wish to run away from them, it is only through accepting them that we can take full responsibility for our lives. 

You may be aware of some of these already, but for the rest, I’m willing to be the blunt bastard that tells them to you. You may hate me today, but you’ll thank me tomorrow.

For the record, this isn’t meant to be a pessimistic rant about how tough life is. It’s meant to motivate you to take action armed with this knowledge. 

Here are 8 brutally honest truths you need to hear if you want to get your shit together in both video and written form:

1. You’re Going to Regret How Much Time You Spend on Social Media

Social media is amazing, and I’m as addicted to it as you are. But social media is also making us all more disconnected than we’ve ever been before through the illusion of increased connection. Yes, we are able to communicate with thousands of people with ease, but with what depth?

Social media is robbing way too many of us of real connection and real life experiences. Rather than looking at the world as we walk somewhere or ride public transit, we regress to what the digital world has to offer. If our addiction level stays the same, things could become really scary, and this doesn’t even take into account the potential repercussions of so much exposure to technology. 

2. Your Reactions Are the Problem

Yes, shit happens. And quite often that shit really sucks to have to go through or deal with. But regardless of how challenging something is, it’s always our reaction to it that will dictate how much it is going to impact our lives. 

You decide how much, and for how long, getting cut off on the highway is going to piss you off, and you decide how much someone’s poor opinion of you is going to make you shell up in insecurity. Let your natural reactions happen, but then consciously choose how long you want to let them impact everything else.

3. The Riskiest Thing You Can Do Is Avoid Risks

Whether or not you consider yourself a risk-seeker, there is nothing more risky than complacency. I’m not suggesting that you cannot get to a point where you are truly happy with your life and therefore simply want to sustain that lifestyle, but I’m suggesting that never taking any risks is about as dangerous as it gets.

Stop playing small if you know you want to play big, and stop telling yourself “this is good enough” if you know deep down you would love to do, create, and have so much more. The cost of taking that risk is your long-term happiness.

4. You Should Always Have Enough Money for What Matters

“I would love to attend that seminar or buy that course that can change my life, but money is too tight right now.” As true as that may be, you should always have more than enough to do the things that really matter.

The biggest obstacle is the way we instead spend it on the things that don’t. We don’t process buying a $7 premium coffee daily as an investment in nothing, but we do overthink and see spending a couple hundred dollars on something life-changing as too much. I’m not suggesting we start spending recklessly, or never treat ourselves, but rather that we do reassess how we currently spend our money.

5. People Are Going to Hate You No Matter What You Do

You can try and people please your entire life, but no matter what, some people are always going to dislike you. So rather than wasting your time trying to match what you think is the most acceptable, spend that time accepting exactly who you are.

6. Blaming Only Makes You Weaker

In the moment, to unjustly direct blame towards a circumstance or other person may seem relieving, but in the long term it really takes its toll. The less you take responsibility for your actions and decision making, the weaker you become mentally.

Taking responsibility may come with some immediate repercussions, but over time, it builds a life founded on honesty, and it strengthens your ability to tackle challenges when they do arise. 

7. People Don’t Think of You as Much as You Think They Do

From our perspective, the whole world revolves around us, but there are 7 billion people who see it the same way. While we are not all inherently selfish or self-obsessed, we are all far more concerned with how we are perceived by others than how we perceive them.

So once again, embrace your true self and find peace in knowing that people are too concerned with themselves to give you as much as attention as you think they are.

8. Not Even the Perfect Relationship Is Going to Complete You

I have close friends whose long-term romantic relationships I not only admire, but also hope to one day experience. But even they, who seem to have found “the one,” recognize that true happiness comes from within and can never be filled in by another.

Relationships are an extension of our happiness and not the basis of it, so focus on strengthening the one with yourself and all of the others will follow accordingly. 

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If You’re Not Doing What You Love, You’re Wasting Your Life – Here’s How To Make More Time

Time is our most precious resource here on Earth.

Some of you may be able to make a compelling argument for the value of money, but time, unlike money, cannot be earned. We can eat healthy and live an active lifestyle, both of which should extend our chances of longevity, but it isn’t a guaranteed formula.

Not only could we do everything we’re supposed to and still fall short of the average human life expectancy — currently 79.28 in the United States — but we could also (knock on wood) be derailed by a tragic accident or some other unforeseen circumstance.

So going with the assumption that time is our most valuable resource, what is a statement we not only hear others, but also find ourselves, saying far too often? “I don’t have enough time.”

Whether it’s to justify not pursuing a particular goal, or it’s to try and weasel ourselves out of taking the blame for something we missed, we all regularly complain of being short of this oh-so-precious resource.

To find more time in our lives, we tend to practice one of two main tactics: multi-tasking and addition by subtraction.

Multi-Tasking Is Bulls**t

As competent as some of you may believe yourselves to be at multi-tasking, I firmly believe that it cannot be done effectively, and just as New York Times-bestselling author Neil Pasricha says in The Happiness Equation, we don’t actually do multiple things at once — we just take recurring breaks from doing one thing to work on another.

Can you actually talk on the phone and drive your car at the same time and do both as proficiently as you could separately? Or do you regularly find yourself either asking the person you’re talking with to repeat themselves, or slamming on the breaks to avoid a potential collision?

Addition By Subtraction Is Rarely the Answer

The other way we love to “mine” more time for ourselves is to cut certain activities, responsibilities, and occasionally even people out of our lives. I’m all for this if whatever you’re cutting is something (or someone) you genuinely want out of your life, but how often is that really the case?

So instead I’d like to present a new — and far simpler — solution to instantly give yourself more time to do what you love in life:

The Addiction Is Real!

According to the 2016 Neilsen Social Media Report, the average adult spends just over 25 hours per week on social media, and I seriously doubt that much of that is with a definitive purpose. Most of it begins out of habit and an unconscious addiction, and consists of time being spent looking at, reading, or watching content that has little-to-no bearing on our well-being.

It may not seem like it, but I can promise you that I am not here to condemn social media as a whole, since I love it just as much as you do (and also recognize that you wouldn’t be here reading this right now without it). But I am trying to show how much of our seeming time shortage problem is of our own doing.

It’s not because we have too much on our plate, or that our family expects too much of us, or that there actually aren’t enough hours in a day. It all boils down to how we are choosing to spend our time, and the first step to changing that is by becoming consciously aware of how much is currently being consumed by an addiction we all have the ability to crack.

Remember that social media once didn’t exist and we were all perfectly fine without it. I seriously doubt our lives will be in peril should we choose to cut back and simply go to it when we actually have a reason to.

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