4 Key Steps To Heal From Any Kind Of Trauma

Trauma can be challenging, but the moment we are willing to do work on it is the moment that so much potential for healing and growth opens up. The more aware we are of the bigger picture, the less we suffer.

As a general rule, the mind clings to negative, fear-based experiences as a biological survival mechanism. But when we can consciously step outside of our own stories, outdated beliefs, and personal perspective, we can empower personal transformation through self-awareness.

Below are some useful questions to ask yourself in different instances of trauma. They are designed to help clear your mind, open your heart, and begin the healing process.

1. Life Is About Evolution. Find The Lesson In Your Experience

The Big Bang has revealed a universe to us that is radically evolutionary. It is constantly growing, evolving, and developing, and has been for more than 14 billion years. Life is evolution. It is an ongoing process of transformation and conscious expansion. This is a natural law, and this means that from a higher perspective, all of the experiences in our lives are happening for us, not “to” us.

While things may create suffering on an egoic level, there is often a different layer of meaning from a higher perspective. You must be willing to look for the hidden order in your perceived chaos. Ask yourself:

What am I supposed to learn?

How did I play a part in the creation of this, and what habits or behaviours do I need to clear?

How can I grow from this?

These questions will take you out of a state of learned helplessness and begin shifting your mind to focus on the solution rather than the problem.

I recently worked with a client whose house burnt down. She was overcome with grief. While discussing the situation, she mentioned to me that it was also days within the ten-year anniversary of her husband’s death.

I asked her if she felt that the two situations were somehow connected. Right away, she mentioned that she had still kept all of her husband’s belongings in that house and their bedroom exactly the same, more than ten years later.

She also mentioned how consistently her family begged her to move on. One family member specifically said to her, “If you don’t let go and choose to move on, the universe will eventually force you to.” She felt that this was a lesson in moving forward in her life, and in letting go. She also knew that by holding on so tightly to the past, she was preventing new love and peace of mind from entering her life.

She knew it was time to let go, and as challenging as it would be, it couldn’t be more painful than spending every day trying to pretend that nothing had changed.

Finding the lesson is an important first step to opening our minds to the evolutionary process, and finding a higher meaning in the sequence of events occurring in our lives.

“The wound is the place where the light enters.”    – Rumi

2. See The Other Side

 Beyond simply learning from our experiences, we can also find the hidden benefits in all of the circumstances we are faced with.

Our beliefs and expectations will often create one-sided stories in our mind about whether events are good or bad. This often causes us to focus primarily on the drawbacks of unmet expectations. And yet the exact events that challenge us most in life often have the greatest unseen blessings embedded within them.

Ask yourself, “What are the unseen benefits of this traumatic experience?”

Based on the natural laws of duality that exist on our planet, this technique I’ve learned from Dr. Nima Rahmany in The Overview Method is very effective. It works to un-filter your selective perception so that you can see both sides in a traumatic situation.

Where are you being supported in the face of this challenge? How is this trauma actually supporting the things you care about most in your life?

If you are courageous enough, you will be willing to go directly into the challenges you face, open up your perspective, and do the work. The more benefits you find, the closer you will get to neutralizing the feeling of loss within yourself.

3. Look Beyond Your Perspective

There is a difference between pain and suffering. Pain is a feedback loop, while suffering is the story we create about the pain itself. It adds another layer to our pain

If someone else has hurt you, ask yourself: “Why, according to this person’s life story and perception of events, did this person feel justified in making their decision?”

Every single one of us makes a decision because the combination of our conscious + subconscious mind believes there are more benefits than drawbacks in that decision.

This means that everyone is always doing the best they can with what they understand at the time. And more often than not, the people who do the most careless or destructive things are often the ones hurting the most.

The same principle applies to you also, meaning that the notion of having regret is illusory. It is based on only being able to see the conscious mind’s perspective, putting us in a state of limited awareness. If we could open up the selective filter and see the bigger picture, we would find that the subconscious mind saw greater benefits in our decision at the time, that we weren’t consciously aware of.

In the words of Yehuda Berg, “Hurt people, hurt people.” With awareness and understanding, we can work to break the cycle.

4. Find What’s Missing

In the case of a traumatic loss, developed by Dr. John DeMartini:

All positive and negative particles in the universe are created simultaneously, in perfect one-to-one balance. We are made of these particles, and if these laws apply to all matter (in both quantum mechanics and classical physics), they must apply to the whole.

This perfect one-to-one balance exists within all things, but our senses create imbalanced perceptions. It is completely normal to become attached to the form of what we’ve lost, but it can be very healing to find where what we’re missing still exists in our lives.

Ask yourself, “What do I miss about who/what I’ve lost?”

For example, let’s say that you’ve lost a friend and you miss:

  1. His sense of humour
  2. Having deep conversations with him
  3. Playing video games
  4. His awesome hugs

Keep listing until you’ve covered all of the things you miss about that person.

Now, see where these things still appear in your life, but in different forms:

  1. Who do you laugh with now/who has a good sense of humour?
  2. Who do you have deep conversations with now?

Go through all of the traits that you’ve listed. Sometimes, you’ll have to look very carefully to open up your selective perception. The things you miss in your friend might not only come in the form of other people. For example, you might laugh with your aunt or siblings more often, but you might also find yourself watching more comedy television or funny videos.

If you look carefully, you will find that what you’re missing isn’t actually gone, it has only changed forms. Universal laws state that everything is always in a state of balance, a state of wholeness. While grieving is a necessary part of dealing with trauma, it is often the form we are attached to that creates the most suffering.

Then, what are the benefits of these new forms, that the old one didn’t have?

Some of these questions can be challenging to go through, but if you truly want to create transformation, they are well worth it.

Love yourself enough to do the work, ask the questions, and set yourself free. You deserve it.

Manifesting Your Vision Through “The Law of Attraction”

The Law of Attraction is based on the principle that all matter is made up of pure energy, which is in a constant state of vibration and spin.

The LOA implies that thoughts and emotions are also energy, each having a unique energy signature. Every energetic frequency is in a constant state of attraction or repulsion with all others. With the recent emergence of quantum mechanics, this notion has been largely supported at a micro level.

The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like,” and we are in a constant state of creating our reality through the energy we emit in the form of thoughts and emotion. We continuously interact with the fabric of reality (or quantum field), through thought and emotional energy, and whatever we focus on is likely to manifest. We are each creators of our own reality, and what we put out is what we will attract.

3 Things You Need to Know First

1. A key factor missing from the LOA is that we are creating on both a conscious and subconscious level. This accounts for the seeming contradiction between “opposites attract” and the major principle of LOA, “like attracts like.”

We are still attracting the part of the whole that has been splintered and repressed into the subconscious mind. Basically, the actively repressed traits within ourselves are still charged, and this suppressed energy is also a point of attraction. Until we acknowledge and integrate it, it will still play a role in the creation of our external reality.

2. Our belief systems alter our manifestation process. If you want to manifest $10,000 in one week, but your underlying beliefs are largely identified with a state of lack, you will only manifest more lack.

This is because Law of Attraction works with both thought and emotion, and if you try to think your way into something that you don’t believe, your emotional reaction will support your unconscious beliefs more than your conscious thoughts.

If you try to affirm, “I will be abundant,” but don’t believe it, those beliefs will surface via an emotional response that insinuates the opposite feeling. At that point, you are literally putting the gas and the breaks on at the same time, making manifestation very difficult.

One great tip to overcome this, as stated by Abraham Hicks, is to “start general, and then get specific” with your manifestation process. Start with what you can believe, and continue to expand as you see evidence of your manifestations taking place. This allows your thoughts and emotions to be in resonance rather than dissonance.

3. We are always manifesting according to our highest values. Renowned behavioural development specialist Dr. DeMartini (who was also featured in The Secret) discovered that we all have an inherent set of values that is largely governing our behaviour. DeMartini is quoted as saying, “All of our actions are strategies to align with our values as efficiently as possible,” along with, “all of our positive and negative emotions are feedback as to whether or not we are living in our highest values.” Essentially, the things we value the most filter our perception at a subconscious level. They are governing the way that we manifest, and the reasons we do.

This is why, for example, someone might set a new year’s resolution to lose weight and never achieve their goal. If one of their highest values is social connection, their unconscious will perceive that taking the time to exercise and eat right actually conflicts with the time they would rather be spending at social events with others.

The trick, then, is to change your perception by tying in how exercise and diet actually support your high value on social connection. For example, you might feel more confident meeting new people when you are healthy and strong. Or you can approach it from the other end by tying your value into your goal. In this case, you could try to engage your value of social connection by going to the gym or to nutrition classes with your close friends.

What You Need to Know During Active Manifestation

These are some useful tips if you are meditating on your vision, or practicing visualization.

Clear your mind. To speed up the process of manifestation, presence and focus are key. If your attention is scattered, your manifestation will be too. Write down on paper whatever is bothering you, and vow to leave it outside of your visualization. This will help you stay present.

Open your heart for the process. Connect with the feeling of gratitude as you begin. This can be done by writing a short gratitude list, or by thinking of people/events that you are truly grateful for.

According to the HeartMath Institute, “The heart generates an electromagnetic field roughly 60 times greater in amplitude than brainwaves do.” This field is measured by an electrocardiogram (ECG), and brainwaves were measured using an electroencephalogram (EEG) during these findings. The heart is a major point of attraction.

Be clear. The law of attraction is described as a law. This means it responds to everything, without exception. If you are mixed in your emotions or vision, it will slow the process. The clearer and more detailed you are, the faster your vision will come to life.

Engage your senses. Did you know that the brain can’t actually tell the difference between experience and visualization? This is why visualization is so useful for athletes. This principle applies directly to the LOA. What do you see, hear, smell, touch, and feel when you have arrived at your vision? Feel each sense distinctly, and don’t be afraid to sit with each one individually.

Engage emotion. This is how to charge your vision. Emotions are the driving force behind manifestation.

Align your intention with your values. Tie what you want to manifest into your highest values. More simply put, make sure you can see how your goals support the things that matter most to you in life. This will help you manifest congruently from both the conscious and subconscious mind.

Don’t be desperate. Try to imagine that you are gently requesting. If you are being needy or desperate in your request, you are coming directly from an emotional space of lack. The emotional feeling of lack will counteract your thought-energy, and you are more likely to stagnate.

What You Need to Know After

Take action. Taking action will create momentum, while also building evidence toward creating the belief that your manifestation is unfolding.

Act as if it has already happened. “I AM” is a creative, powerful phrase. If you conduct your behaviour as the person you have already become, you are more energetically aligned with your goal.

Be aware of your internal dialogue. Remember, you are in a constant state of attracting or repulsing what it is that you want to achieve. Your internal dialogue is always creating a point of attraction, along with the emotional reactions it produces. Be congruent!

Allow! You must fully release your vision in order for it to manifest. If you are too attached to it, your need for control can actually stunt the process. Faith and belief in the process are key. It can be helpful to think in terms of being at a restaurant. Once you’ve placed your order, you have to give it time to be cooked up and served to you!

We are all creators, and we all deserve to live an inspired life. The Law of Attraction is a beautiful tool that enables us to consciously put our creative powers to use! In the words of George Bernard Shaw, “Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.”

Mental Causes of Illness: A Guided Body Scan To Discusses Psychosomatic Causes of Specific Ailments

Although Western culture is beginning to acknowledge the true depth of the mind-body connection, psychosomatic ailments are widely misunderstood – and are consequently, often mistreated.

After working with thousands of people internationally, author and behavioural development expert, Evette Rose, has carefully tracked patterns of how this mind-body connection presents itself and has shared these patterns in a 722-page book called Metaphysical Anatomy. After an exciting interview with her, we learned a lot about the depths of the mind-body connection!

Your Body Is Trying to Communicate

Emotional and physical pain are forms of suffering that the body produces to make you aware of what isn’t currently serving you. For example: if you’re overworked, you’ll begin to feel tired, which is your body’s way of telling your mind that you need a break.

Under this same methodology, physical conditions that are unexplained by injury or illness are often rooted in emotional turmoil – if you feel overwhelmed, you may get an inexplicable headache. If the majority of North Americans have experienced “medically unexplained” pain in their lives, isn’t it time to ask ourselves what the true source of that pain is?

How are the Mind and Body Connected?

The mind and body are undeniably connected. In fact, they are one. Let’s look at the example of trauma to demonstrate this.

The human body stores trauma in several different ways. Traumatic experiences cause a release of neurochemicals such as cortisol and norepinephrine within the amygdala, hippocampus and prefrontal cortex.

People who experience extreme emotional trauma can actually trigger a permanent change in different areas of their brain as a result of these neurochemical imbalances. These neurochemical reactions are sent throughout our body, impacting our nervous system, heart-rate, breathing patterns and motor function.

An extension of this research brings us to psychosomatic pain. Since emotions, like stress, can measurably alter the physical brain, how is the mind able to harm or heal the body, and in what other ways can our emotions affect our bodies?

The Brain is Wired for Safety

When considering this question, it is important to remember that the human body inherently works to keep you “safe”. From a young age, we develop coping mechanisms that protect us from bad experiences and help us to move forward in life.

As we mature, however, our coping mechanisms can actually become misaligned with what we authentically want, creating internal conflict that can then be expressed as a form of psychosomatic pain – like headaches.

Imagine, for example, that you fell out of a tree as a child and broke your arm. Your mind then develops a fear of heights to protect you from getting yourself in a similar situation in the future. However, if as you grow up you decide you want to become a pilot, your outdated defense mechanisms may prevent you from living authentically and pursuing your passion. This lack of fulfillment could then manifest into migraines as you grow frustrated with your substitute job and could result in both physical pain and unhappiness or depression.

How Can We Move Beyond Mind-Body Limitations?

In this interview, Evette shares that one of the biggest challenges people face is change. We can become quite limited in our ability to align with our truth when the subconscious is innately resistant to change. It perpetuates what is learned at a young age, and often causes you to sabotage new goals and ideas if they are outside of what the subconscious is used to.

When you feel like your coping mechanisms may be kicking in, it is essential to ask yourself what your body is feeling, and what it is trying to tell you. Ask yourself if your mind is genuinely protecting you from something that is actually happening right now, or if you can trace it back to a past experience and old reactionary pattern. By doing this, you’ll be able to better identify what it is that is limiting you, and the ways in which your body is affected by the turmoil in your mind.

What You’ll Learn From Evette

As mentioned, Evette is a personal development expert, intuitive, international speaker and accomplished author. During this interview, Evette takes us through a guided body scan to discuss different psychosomatic causes of specific ailments.

You’ll learn about mind-body connection patterns, the profound enmeshment between our subconscious and physiology, the impact of epigenetics and how “identity overlap” plays a massive role in storing traumas in the body.

Why You Should Watch This Interview

Evette provides unique insight on how to heal emotional trauma, and how to better understand the relationship between your mind and body.

Her newest book, Metaphysical Anatomy, delves into further detail about what your body is trying to tell you, and contains incredibly insightful information that will help heal and connect to the deeper layers of yourself. Psychosomatic pain, at its core, is your body begging you to listen – and when you do, you’ll become your best, and most authentic self.

How to Go Vegan for Good in Twenty-Four Hours: An Interview With James Aspey

This article is not meant to push anything on anyone. It is meant to help people make a big transition in a short amount of time if you so choose. The key word is choice. Titles, labels and identifications are often limiting, but decisions and commitments we make to ourselves can often come with unlimited benefits.

My personal journey to going vegan was not easy. I can’t eat gluten, so the initial idea of committing to a vegan lifestyle felt like I had nothing left to eat. Every person has their own perceptions and limitations and every one of them are valid until we reach a point where they no longer serve.

In my experience, I stayed a vegetarian for quite some time. For almost three years I would try committing to being vegan for a few weeks and fail. I was gentle with myself about it, but it was no longer a struggle the day I sat down and committed to seeing the truth.

I decided that to motivate myself, I needed to understand what livestock farming looked like. I was aware of the health benefits and aware of how animal agriculture impacted the environment, but I had always justified not watching the terrible videos on the internet.

I figured I might as well check out the actual conditions each species was subjected to, in order to avoid any denial that might exist. I told myself I would make whatever personal choice I wanted to after I did this research.

How This Decision Came Easily 

The first video I saw showed an injured cow getting violently kicked and beaten while she couldn’t get up. I was horrified. I noticed a part of myself try to justify ending my “research,” but chose to take a different approach this time.

 I decided that if I’ve been eating this food for decades, I might as well commit just one hour of my time to investigating what the process of getting my food looked like. I figure this was the only way to make an honest decision about what I was eating.

I knew this way, the decision would be up to me. I’m a firm believer in making clear decisions based on all the details, so I had to see what those details were.

After one hour, I knew eating animal products was in the past for me. There weren’t words to describe the horror that goes on, and I had no real idea about the implications of the industry I was supporting until I saw the truth with my own eyes.

How to Properly Make a Decision For Yourself

The subconscious mind is programmed through repetition. If we have repeatedly seen ads and positive confirmation regarding eating animals or animal products for years, this is simply embedded in our perception. This isn’t an excuse, but it is a reason to be gentle on ourselves as we see these things.

This bombardment in the media has desensitized us over time and even made us defensive because we associate our habits with our identity. If our lifestyle feels threatened, we interpret this as a threat to our survival and our fight/flight mechanisms in the reptilian brain are activated to defend ourselves immediately. This often stunts our ability to investigate with an open mind. This is completely normal, but being aware of it can help us to move beyond this step.

If we want to change our programming, it requires a good amount of research and emotionality to actively change what has already been stored subconsciously regarding our relationship to food.

Exercise Self-Compassion

This is nobody’s fault, and nobody should be forced to do this either. But if we want to make autonomous decisions, we must investigate both sides of what’s happening. There is a tremendous amount of financial incentive for large corporations to keep information hidden and to repeatedly feed us with ads about the “benefits” of animal products.

Everyone is entitled to their own lifestyle and decisions, but they should be made with information that is not just what we see on television or through advertisements that are geared to create a specific perception.

Check Out World-Renowned Activist James Aspey

After an incredible interview with James Aspey, a vegan activist who did a 365-day vow of silence for animals, I learned some more excellent tips and tools to keep me dedicated to my journey. James has over 30 million views on some of his beautiful speeches and is a sensational international speaker. He is also a beautiful human being who has a wonderful story about his own transformation.

The Process of Becoming Vegan Overnight

The First Step: Awareness

  1. Dedicate one hour of your time to watching what happens in slaughter houses. Check out what happens to every species of animal involved. See the process of how your food is created. This way you get to make an educated decision, independent of the media.
  2. James says we must try to imagine the argument from both sides. He isn’t referring to “eating animal products vs. not eating animal products.” He is referring to looking at the perspective of how we are personally impacted, as well as how the victims are impacted.

The Second Step: Educate Yourself

1. Learn about the health benefits of being vegan, while looking at the drawbacks of the lifestyle you are currently living. Take the time to evaluate this with an open mind. If you didn’t already know, The International Agency for Research on Cancer (IARC) has classified processed meat as a Group 1 carcinogen, along with tobacco and asbestos. James shares this as a resource:


2. Learn how animal agriculture impacts the environment. The best source that James Aspey shares is:


3. Learn about vegan alternatives, so you know what you will need to find substitutions for. I suggest simply making a list of foods you need to cut out of your diet and go to the grocery store to pick up these alternatives. Nowadays, you can find almost all alternatives for animal products at your local supermarket.

4. Identify your potential road blocks/fears and create proactive strategies to move through these moments. For example, what do you do if you are stuck late at work and need an emergency snack? How can you make these situations as easy for yourself as possible?

5. Join community support groups online and subscribe to some cool vegan Youtube channels for food recipes!

Some Tips/Suggestions:

  1. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about the things you’re uncertain of.
  2. Don’t stress yourself out if you make mistakes. This is how we learn.
  3. Don’t push your beliefs on others. Change doesn’t come from fighting a problem, it comes from being for the solution. Sharing is different than preaching, and we can’t know someone else’s reasoning for their decisions.

Three principles to remember:

  1. Stored subconscious guilt is the biggest cause of self-sabotage for behaviour. If you really want to make the commitment to a new lifestyle and have done your research, remember that what you eat can go so far as to affect your behaviour too.
  2. Every single person makes a difference. No one person is too small to make an impact. Change happens when many individuals take accountability for their lifestyles and habits, to create a collective shift. Your decisions matter.
  3. Where you spend your dollars supports an industry to be upheld. You are generally supporting an industry or not with your funding. Choice by choice, you are a part of the problem or the solution to change.

Check out this interview with James Aspey! He will teach you everything you need to know, and he has a heart of gold that will inspire you to take the next steps!

New Genetic Trait Found: We Have Been Misdiagnosing ADD and ADHD All Along

We all know there are benefits and drawbacks to today’s modern healthcare system in the Western world. When it comes to treating physical symptoms, our healthcare system could be considered very advanced. Yet when it comes to understanding root causes of problems and transforming the core issues themselves, we are often missing the mark.

One contributing factor to this lack of properly solving chronic health issues at their root cause could be the way we label things. Labeling itself can serve initially, because it allows us to clearly see that there is a problem which needs to be addressed.

However, beyond the initial label we can often get caught up in demonizing the symptoms of our experience instead of viewing them as critical feedback that is communicating information to us. In my opinion, this is one of the ways our current healthcare system can even cause more harm than good.

What is a Key Example of our Healthcare System Treating Symptoms Over Root Causes?

Instead of looking at depression as a pattern of emotional feedback for our perceptions and subconscious programs, we label it “depression” and disclose that the cause is a “chemical imbalance” that should be treated through medication.

When you take a closer look, there aren’t many people who are born with a chemical imbalance that specifically creates depression. It is something that is developed over time.

Where does this chemical imbalance come from? It comes from our thoughts. Since thoughts create emotions and emotions are made of neurochemical reactions, our programmed thought and belief patterns are the actual source of the chemical imbalance.

For example, if I walk into a room full of people at a social event and have an underlying belief that “people don’t like me,” I will walk into the room with a sequence of belief-related thoughts that will trigger a stress response reaction within my body. The thoughts are creating the neurochemical response, see?

In laymen’s terms, if I have negative thoughts it creates negative neurochemical reactions. If I have positive thoughts, it creates positive neurochemicals – most often dopamine and serotonin. Guess what type of neurochemicals anti-depressant drugs are helping our brains to manufacture? You guessed it.

By treating depression as a “chemical imbalance” we are treating the symptoms of depression, not the subconscious programs of thoughts and beliefs (a.k.a. the roots). By treating only the symptoms, we actually allow the root issue to stay alive and perpetuate itself beneath the surface.

Does this mean anti-depressants are bad or don’t work? Absolutely not. These can absolutely serve in the short-term context of providing enough stability for the root to then be addressed.

It is specifically when we address one part of the problem without addressing the other that problems arise. Both serve, but they must both be made aware of.

So Who is Garret John LoPorto?

Garret John is an author, speaker, advocate and founder of Wayseer.org. He is a pioneer of new ideas and created a viral video series to inspire people to re-connect with their inner truth.

After doing an incredible interview with Garret, it became clear to me that he takes a different approach on the way he sees core issues the healthcare system is currently diagnosing and medicating.

Garret and his research lead him to discover patterns behind the core qualities that pioneering entrepreneurs have, and so-called symptoms of disorders that the Western healthcare model is currently diagnosing as ADD, ADHD, addictive pre-dispositions and objective-defiance disorder.

One of the core examples he used was ADD and ADHD. He re-named the qualities associated with ADD as qualities of a “DaVinci Type,” or “Wayseer.”

ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) / ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is the most common diagnosis amongst young children in psychiatric clinics. ADD is characterized by “disruptive, attention-seeking behavior” (Wallach and Kogan (1965) p. 294-295), inability to pay attention for extensive periods of time, impulsiveness and an inability to control impulses compared to the status quo.

What Key Qualities Represent the “DaVinci Type/Wayseer?”

LoPorto found that ADD/ADHD is not a disorder, but a hereditary or genetic condition that is found in persons who have gene DRD4 7R allele that is present in about 10% of the world’s population and up to 25% of Americans.  The gene is exceptionally prevalent amongst extraordinarily creative or highly successful people. There are core qualities associated with this gene including:

  • Elevated levels of “openness”
  • The ability to think outside of the box
  • Creativity (especially as it relates to problem solving)
  • Need for novelty, stimulation, and growth
  • Risk-takers
  • An extreme need for exploration
  • Often charisma
  • Empathy
  • Sensitivity

People with this genetic variation present have a different relationship to dopamine. Garret’s research shows that this temperament is often necessary for high-level athletes, inventors, entrepreneurs, rock stars and pioneers of different fields of research.

Garret also noted that these “Wayseers” are often highly creative, expressive and emotionally intelligent individuals. They are often restless, can be averse to authority and are often kinesthetic learners.

Another avid researcher and thought leader Dr. John DeMartini has done ample research on this topic also. His argument against labelling ADD and ADHD stems from the question, “How can a young boy be diagnosed with ADD and struggle in school, but proceed to be completely focused on hours of video games on end at home?”

Dr. Gabor Mate, another pioneer for change in the healthcare system has found some profound links between ADD and trauma. His theories revolve around the idea that when a child can’t fight or flee from emotional trauma they are not able to properly process, the brain forms a coping mechanism in which it incessantly “flees” by dissociating when stress is triggered.

How Should We Be Addressing This Issue?

There are enormous amounts of conflicting research revolving around ADD and ADHD. Is it possible that the single most “diagnosed” disorder among young children actually has limited concrete evidence to back it up?

Is it possible that we are medicating and changing the brain chemistry of children and young adults without even knowing what is really going on?

We don’t necessarily have the answer, but in the very least, information this inconclusive certainly tells me that we don’t need to be jumping to medicate kids. If we can’t find concrete evidence, why not try working with these traits instead of attempting to diagnose and suppress them?

Why You Should Watch This Interview

Garret shares some incredible insights in this interview. He also provides a series of different potential solutions for both individuals and systems in society.

He is incredibly insightful, helps us to think outside of the box and shares the importance of questioning the information we are receiving so that we can learn to connect to ourselves and our heart’s truth.

Related CE Article: 4 Facts About ADHD That Doctors & Teachers Never Tell Parents

The Emotional & Health Benefits of Meditation – Interview With Modern ‘Guru’ Koi Fresco

Meditation has become increasingly more of a mainstream movement for quite some time now. But have you ever watched someone speak about it who has been meditating consistently for hours each day, for years on end?

What does this person look like? Are they completely at peace? Are they as wise and powerful as you’d imagine?

Well here’s your chance to see first hand. This is Koi Fresco – a spiritual teacher in his early twenties, with a Youtube channel consisting of over 450,000 subscribers, simply based on the wisdom he shares from his heart. He is a published author, who once spent months in prison and transformed his life completely through spiritual practice.

Koi is an avid meditator, and his entire life revolves largely around his spiritual journey. He teaches workshops at universities, works with people one-on-one, and runs a small business selling sacred crystals and other spiritual belongings.

If that all sounds pretty impressive to you, it will be interesting to know that Koi is the first person to say that his transformation on the material plane is largely based on meditation and connection to his Higher Self.

In this beautiful interview, I had the chance to really discuss with Koi what the benefits of meditation are, along with the importance of self-love and self-connection. 

What Does Science Tell Us About Meditation?

On a biological level, it is common knowledge that being in a constant state of fight-flight causes cortisol and adrenaline levels to shoot through the roof. This has a direct, negative impact on our immune response and digestive system, as well as the emotions we experience.

In opposition to this, being in a meditative state has consistently been associated with neurochemicals like serotonin and dopamine, as well as growth hormones necessary for cell repair. A consistent meditation practice essentially has the power to increase happiness at a neurochemical level, as well as boost the immune system and intensify the body’s ability to repair itself.

During a Harvard Medical School study conducted by Dr. Herbert Benson, research even went so far as to demonstrate that specific genes known to protect us from chronic pain, high blood-pressure, infertility and rheumatoid arthritis were switched on in real time! Author and speaker, Dr. Joe Dispenza also has some wonderful studies to support these findings!

What Does Koi Fresco Tell Us About His Experiences from Meditation?

You’ll have to listen to this interview to learn about the entire wealth of beautiful benefits Koi shares with us. However, some key points are as follows:

  1. Added clarity regarding your life’s purpose. Koi shares that we all experience clarity about who we are, why we’re here and how to make decisions that support the highest expression of ourselves through a commitment to meditative practice.
  1. Koi discusses the way that profound inner peace takes the place of stress, fear, and anxiety as the result of frequent meditation.
  1. Koi shares that we feel more connected to both ourselves and others when meditating. He discusses the process through which we become less reactive and more reflective, as well as find it easier to love and forgive others.

Koi also shares many tools we can use to develop greater self-love, healthier relationships, and transcend suffering throughout this entire interview!

What Techniques Can We Use to Begin a Meditation Practice Today?

Research studies conducted at Harvard share that techniques including meditation, yoga, repeating mantras and partaking in prayer, all create a profound sense of relaxation in the body. Here are some wonderful suggestions from both Koi, as well as numerous studies.

1. Try a Body Scan

This is a wonderful technique to re-develop a relationship to your own body. We often take our body for granted, not acknowledging just how hard it works to support us.

While doing a body scan, the idea is to get back in touch with what’s happening within your body. The idea is to bring awareness from the bottom up, beginning with your toes. Get in touch – witness the sensations you feel in your feet and direct your mental energy progressively up your body until you reach the top of your head.

It is useful to notice where you store tension, and to consciously release this tension as you move your awareness throughout your body.

2. Check Out a Guided Meditation

Guided meditations use a combination of sound, guided imagery and mantras to help you achieve a state of deep relaxation. Theres a wide variety of guided meditations to choose from, but I would choose a topic that suits you. Some examples of topics you might find are, “releasing stress, connecting to your Higher Self, or grounding meditations.”

3. Focus on Your Breath

You’ve likely heard of this one! Our breath is a very powerful and very underrated part of our lives in Western society. We are meant to be breathing in and out slowly and deeply, ideally with a four-count on both the in and out breath. There are some wonderful tools you can use to research different breathing techniques including Transformational Breathing and Pranayama.

Why You Should Watch This Interview

Not only will Koi explain to you many profound ways in which meditation works, he will also share a variety of real-world tools to stay connected to yourself as you move through the many pressures we experience in the Western world. He is resourceful, kind, and a living example of what happens when you commit to spiritual growth and meditative practice in a practical way.

The Essene Teachings: The Universe Is Your Mirror – With Maryam Hasnaa

Maryam Hasnaa is a spiritual teacher, energy healer and bright light of wisdom. She hosts international workshops and travels to teach people how to connect to their essence, and transform their suffering into wisdom and truth.

During our interview, Maryam shared profound spiritual wisdom about the Essenes, and how the universe is a great mirror.

Who are the Essenes?

The Essenes are an ancient brotherhood of divinely illuminated beings who believed they were here to share enlightenment with the planet. They were strong advocates of self-mastery and heart-based living.

Why Do We Have These Mirrors?

We are creating all the time, whether we are consciously aware of it or not. The Essene mirrors are constantly letting us know what we are creating, and are endlessly reflecting this back to us.

When we emit a negative vibration, the universe shows up for us to support our learning. It gently reminds us what is going on inside of us, to make us conscious of our creation. When we do not wake up to this and become conscious, the mirror effect increases in its intensity. This would be analogous to failing a test at school, and having to re-take a more challenging version of the original.

The universe does not discriminate upon what it mirrors to us. It is unconditionally loving, reflecting to you exactly whatever it is that you are projecting outwards – positive or negative. Unconditional love does not pity, it respects.

When you’re emitting negativity, it does not enable you by taking it easy on you. Instead, it lovingly stands by you, and believes in you enough to get back up again from the challenges that arise via the mirror effect.

Love believes in you and respects you enough to unconditionally show you what you are projecting outward, for your growth and expansion to occur. In its mercilessness is absolute mercy.

What are the 7 Mirrors?

Mirror #1: What you see outside of you is an exact reflection of what you are in that moment.

(Remember that mirrors are reflecting both your conscious and subconscious mind.)

Mirror #2: You attract what you judge.

You will often see this occur in a pattern format in multiple areas of your life if you pay close attention. Note that there is a vast difference between judgement and discernment. It’s one thing to have preferences (discernment), and something completely different to harbor charged judgements about anything. In the case of a charged judgement, anything you’re resisting is simultaneously what you’re feeding.

Mirror #3: “The third mirror will show you something that you’ve lost, given away, or had taken away.”

Maryam shares that this is where jealousy comes from. She shares a beautiful explanation for this in the interview!

Mirror #4: A Forgotten Love

Maryam shares the important contexts in which this would show up in our lives, as well as the meaning behind it. This is one of my favourite ones!

Mirror #5: The dark night of the soul – the repressed parts of yourself that you have condemned will be reflected back to you by people or circumstances that show up in your life.

If we have a negative person or experience that we are very charged on, we want to work out what this is mirroring to us and how it is representing a deep or disowned element of ourselves in some way. Once we can own this, there is room for deep healing to take place.

On a side note, Maryam also shares that the deepest, most rejected parts of yourself are often what you can be unconsciously most attracted to in a partner! The purpose of this is for you to see yourself in your entirety, so that you can integrate and be whole.

Mirror #6: A mirror of your mother or father aspect shows up for you.

This is an exciting one! You’ll have to watch the interview to hear how eloquently Maryam explains this.

Mirror #7: The mirror of your self-concept both conscious and subconscious.

People will show up in your life in order to mirror to you how you treat yourself. This might be the most powerful one, because we aren’t always aware of how we are showing up in the relationship to ourselves.

For example, if you constantly hear yourself talking about how people “take advantage of you,” chances are you’re taking advantage of your own time, resources or energy to please other people. The people that show up in your life and “take advantage” are your teachers, mirroring to you exactly how you treat yourself.  


  1. Every mirroring event is an opportunity to recognize yourself more clearly. Pain or frustration are here to guide us to the fragmented part of ourselves that are calling for integration.
  1. When you are on auto-pilot, you are not consciously creating. Whatever programs you picked up on in childhood are instead creating on your behalf. The more intentionality we can bring to each moment, decision, emotion and thought, the more we flow with the current of life.
  1. The more aware we are in each moment, the easier it becomes to recognize the lessons that the universe is bringing to us.
  1. The mirrors become more and more subtle as time goes on.

Why You Need to Watch This Interview:

Incredible wisdom is shared by Maryam Hasnaa in this interview. Not only is there an opportunity to shift the perception you have of yourself, but you are also being given specific tools that will help you to change the way you interact with suffering.

Just by practicing some of the tools shared here, we can cultivate the ability to see each “negative” event in our lives as a powerful opportunity for integration (healing) what we were not previously aware of.

Suffering is our teacher, breaking down what no longer serves so that we may grow closer to our own heart.


Grounding, Clearing & Raising Your Vibration: An Interview with Bridget Nielsen

Bridget Nielsen is a spiritual teacher and interdimensional bridge between this world and beyond. Her extrasensory abilities allow her to connect with celestial beings and to channel wisdom into our reality. She shares amazing content weekly through her Youtube channel, and is a “lightworker” for the ascension process.

I sat down with Bridget to discuss a myriad of tools to help keep our vibration elevated, along with the importance of clearing and grounding.

What is our vibration?

Our vibration is our personal energy signature. We are all made up of vibrating particles of energy, and it is easiest to think of vibration as the overall tone of this vibration that we exude.

Why Is It Important to Understand Our Vibration?

Everything in our universe is in a state of vibration. You might remember from school, that atoms are in a constant state of motion. Depending on what speed these atoms are moving at, things appear as a gas, solid, or liquid.

Thoughts, emotions, and sound are also vibrations and carry unique energetic signatures. If we are living in a high vibrational state, this is directly correlated to the health and happiness of our bodies in many ways. There are other factors that play a role, but generally this also impacts our abundance, fulfillment and capacity for healthy relationships.

In Western society we are generally caught up in looking at the external world as the creator of our reality. This is completely backwards. Our external reality is the reflector of our interior world. We are creating our lives from the inside-out, and understanding how to raise our vibration is a key element of generating what we want to see in our external reality.

In the words of Hermes, “As above, so below. As within, so without.”

How Do We Raise Our Vibration?

You’ll have to watch the interview for all of the amazing tools and tricks Bridget shares, but here are three of my favourite tools that she shared!

  1. We must learn to stay in our own vibration. We spend so much time getting pulled into other people’s problems, emotions, and lives. If we watch what’s happening in mainstream news, immediately our vibration is polluted with fear and negativity. If we listen to someone complaining incessantly, we are also pulled into their vibration.

It is extremely important to learn how to set boundaries with what you get sucked into. If you can learn to exercise compassion instead of sympathy, this is a great start.

Remember that when we suffer for others, we are pulled out of remaining present with them. We tell a story in our minds about their story, and then suffer over our own story created. Compassion allows us to exercise true presence, without our vibration being affected.

  1. Take time alone to reset your personal vibrational state and clear negative patterns. We are completely affected by the vibrations of the people around us. When we don’t take space to get in touch with what our natural energy signature is, it’s easy to feel ungrounded.

When you spend time alone, notice the emotions you feel most often in your experience. Are you joyful, peaceful, calm, lonely etc.? This will give you some great insight into a major piece of your vibration. By checking in with your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health, you can gain major insight into your “home” vibration.

With this awareness, you can see which aspects of yourself need to be worked on the most. You can also consciously choose activities that raise the lower aspects of your vibration, based on what you know recharges you the best.

  1. Learn how to ground yourself. Your energy signature is all over the place when you are not rooted in your body. We can get into high vibrational spaces and be disconnected from our body, but this is often a form of dissociation and comes with a negative impact later.

A few tools we can use to ground ourselves are exercise, grounding scents, meditative body-scans, and root-chakra crystals. We can also practice taking action when we feel “too high” in our vibration, because we ground our inspiration into reality this way.

Why You Should Watch This Interview:

Bridget discusses a lot about clearing negative energy in this interview. We discuss clearing on all levels – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Bridget shares which high-vibration foods we can eat, as well as how different cities and environments impact our vibration.

We also discuss how to become aware of negative energy in your space, and how to get rid of it. These “negative” energies are always showing us something about ourselves – conscious or unconscious. When we can master our approach to dealing with these things, we are empowered to create a fulfilled life.

The New Masculinity: Integrating the Feminine – An Interview With An Ex-Pro Athlete

Lewis Howes is an ex-professional football player turned personal development expert. He has a New York Times best-selling book called The School of Greatness, which outlines the greatest lessons he learned as the creator of his incredible podcast.

Upon meeting Lewis, he fits the typical “jock” stereotype in many ways. He is tall, athletic, and his determination to succeed is palpable.

Yet this very same “jock” has written a new book called The Mask of Masculinity. This entire book focuses on men learning to embrace their vulnerability and be open with their emotions.

This book was largely inspired by Lewis’ personal journey of growth and transformation. After experiencing some traumas in early childhood that he kept locked away for a very long time, he realized that it was in opening up and sharing that real healing could take place.

Our Perspective on Masculinity and Feminism

Throughout this interview, Lewis shares his story, as well as many of the different “masks” that masculinity often hides behind.

He shares amazing tools for men to become more aware, as well as for women to help their loved ones to shift into feeling safe expressing emotion, sharing vulnerability, and breaking down their walls.

Throughout the past century, we’ve seen a massive emphasis on equality and human rights. There is still an enormous amount of work to do, but I’ve always found a pillar of this — the feminist movement, something very interesting in the West.

The feminist movement has been based around gender equality, which has been tremendously important for society. As a female I couldn’t imagine life without the same rights and freedoms I have today. Yet I can’t help but notice that the feminist movement largely focused on women taking ownership of their masculine energy and expressing it in the world.

While this has been monumental in many ways, it has also led to the repression of feminine energy as a whole, specifically in Western society.

This reminds me of Albert Einstein saying, “You can’t solve a problem at the same level of thinking that created it.” It’s as if we wanted femininity to be equal to masculinity, but in our attempt to equilibrate women, just became more masculine.

Of course, there is much more to this, but I do believe feminine energy is powerful. It is sometimes in our passive allowing that we hold space for deeper ideas to come through, or powerful manifestations to finally come to fruition. We need both masculine and feminine energy to be powerful creators, and I am glad to see Lewis is doing this.

Three Powerful Pieces of Insight from Lewis

1. Lewis broke down his book into the diverse types of “masks” men wear, and discusses these masks throughout the interview. We all know that when we can witness and label a thought or behavioural pattern, we gain the awareness to change this pattern at its root. He says the most common masks men wear are the athlete mask, the stoic mask, the sexual mask, and the material mask.

2. Lewis shares that the masks are the result of a man’s sensitivity. These insensitive personas we sometimes see in men are most often caused by early childhood experiences that are too emotional for a man to process fully, and the mask’s enmeshment with the personality is the effect of sensitivity itself.

3. Lewis shares a lot about the different health risks associated with emotional repression. He found that extreme emotional repression is linked to chronic illness, heart attacks, strokes, and more! This means that the “masks” worn by men are literally affecting their physiological state.

What We Need to Be Aware Of

What I really appreciated about Lewis’ interview was also his follow-up wisdom in sharing how women can help men to realize these masks, and break out of these old coping mechanisms.

I truly believe that it takes strength to be soft. With the way society is today, it is not easy to be emotionally vulnerable. Without vulnerability, we connect to people from behind our walls and it is very difficult to have our need for connection satisfied. We then cope with this through habits like excessive use of social media or alcohol as a tool to break these walls down.

We all wear masks, and it is extremely important to identify what ours are. Masks are a symptom of old, unprocessed wounds, fears, and vulnerabilities that we have not yet owned. When we can acknowledge the type of masks we wear, and understand what has created them, we have the power to overcome them. Not only is this important for human connection, but also for us to find inner peace in our internal reality and in our connection to the world around us.

This is a powerful interview that outlines these masks with great depth, and it is important for us all to watch!