(Dr. Joseph P. Farrell) Color me crazy, but I've never been on the cashless society bandwagon for a variety of reasons, not the least being that anything Mr. Globaloney is for, is probably ab initio et in principio a bad idea. Crypto-currencies, in this light, always struck me as being "too good to be true" and their principal selling point – security and privacy – a little too convenient. THey struck me then, and strike me now, as being taylor-made to press Mr. Globaloney's desire to move everyone to cashlessness.
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India: corruption scandals reveal a gaping hole in society
By Jon Rappoport
“There are two ways to go. One, expose an enormous scandal and say, ‘See, this is what humans do, there is no hope’; or, exposing the same scandal, say, ‘As bad as this is, there are individuals who can invent futures that surpass the greed and the insanity’.” (The Magician Awakes, Jon Rappoport)
Honor, honesty, integrity, ethics—words that mean nothing in a universe of corruption. Words that have been co-opted by vague idealists who hide behind them.
No matter what systems and organizations people build, there is always the question of how many honest individuals are in positions of power—and that question is crucial, to say the least.
I can’t count the number of scandals I’ve written about over the past 35 years. Nor can I count the number of times I’ve referred to The Individual as the bedrock of society.
There is an illusion that the future is shaped by collectives, that we live in a planetary collective, but the truth is, individuals are still at the center of things. Failing to focus on, and elevate the importance of, the individual leads to dire consequences.
The failure of education (at home and in schools) to take up issues of individual freedom, power, and responsibility opens the door to unaccountable corruption. There is no way around it.
How many colleges in the world teach courses that truly explore individual freedom, responsibility, power, creativity, and ethics as a single whole? How many teachers, even if permitted, would be able to lead students through such a course without the usual empty platitudes and academic fiddle-faddle?
The obvious answers to these questions reveal a gaping hole in society and civilization, a hole that most people don’t notice, because they’ve been trained to look away from it.
This time I’m taking a look at India, and a gigantic “institutional” scandal many readers have never heard of.
The Washington Post July 5, 2015: GWALIOR, India — “Nobody knows exactly when or why the witnesses and small-time crooks caught up in one of India’s biggest-ever corruption scandals began dying under mysterious circumstances. But in the past two years, that’s what’s happened to more than two dozen people implicated in a $1 billion test-rigging scheme.”
“Even by standards in India, where corruption is routine, the scale of the scam in the central state of Madhya Pradesh is mind-boggling. Police say that since 2007, tens of thousands of students and job aspirants have paid hefty bribes to middlemen, bureaucrats and politicians to rig test results for medical schools and government jobs.”
“So far, 1,930 people have been arrested and more than 500 are on the run. Hundreds of medical students are in prison — along with several bureaucrats and the state’s education minister. Even the governor has been implicated.”
“Police have had their hands full racing to meet a July deadline in the criminal probe. And now they are faced with the deaths of more witnesses and suspects. In the past week, police said, one of those accused died after having chest pains in prison, another drowned in a village pond and a third died of a liver infection.”
“On Saturday, television reporter Akshay Singh died while investigating a suspect’s death. Singh sipped tea during an interview and began coughing and foaming at the mouth, according to media reports. He was rushed to the hospital, where doctors said he had suffered a heart attack. Police said the initial examination did not reveal anything ‘suspicious’.”
“’The police say they keep coming up against a wall in their investigation every time someone is found dead’, said Chandresh Bhushan, chairman of the special investigation team that was appointed by the state court to monitor the police probe. ‘We ask them, “Why are so many dying in road accidents in this case? Does this have any link to the scam?” There is no evidence of a link yet, but we cannot overrule it, either’.”
“’There is so much information with the investigators that it could bring the government down,’ said Ashish Chaturvedi, 26, one of the whistleblowers. He has been attacked 14 times by unknown assailants, he said. Six of the assaults took place in front of a police officer assigned by a court to protect him last year.”
“Many of the mysteriously dead are young — either students who paid money and made it into medical schools or job aspirants trying to take tests to become police officers, school teachers, forest rangers and food inspectors.”
“Some of the accused, called ‘racketeers’ in police files, have died from poison. Others died in freak road accidents, or by consuming too much alcohol, or by hanging. One medical college dean died in a fire. A medical student was found dead on railway tracks. The son of the state governor was found dead at his father’s home in March, ostensibly from a brain hemorrhage.”
“Last week, Narendra Singh Tomar, a 29-year-old veterinarian who was in prison on charges of arranging impersonators for medical school applicants, complained of chest pain, police said, and died soon after in a hospital. His family told reporters that they suspected Tomar was murdered.”
“A day later, a 40-year-old assistant professor at a medical college, Rajendra Arya, who was out on bail after being charged in the case, died of a heart attack…”
You could call this a collective scandal of corruption, but many individuals make up that collective, each acting according to his own sense of (lack of) honesty. And you could also say that individuals trying to expose the scandal and get to the bottom of it are paying the ultimate price—as if that were a reason to give up and claim there is no solution, ever.
But there is always a solution in the long run, if it begins with educating individuals about who and what they are—and, more importantly, finding that place in a person where he already knows who he is, beyond the kind of greed and evil exemplified by the corruption described above.
Honesty, integrity, and responsibility exist. Yes they do. In the minds and consciences of individuals.
This has always been true, and it will always be true.
The worst cynic in the world is, in fact, the worst cynic precisely because he understands this. He sees the good. He never loses sight of it. He has it in himself, and he knows others have it, too, no matter how forcefully he denies it.
Genuinely and authentically helping to lift up the individual opens a portal to a world almost everyone would want to live in.
Over the years (and currently), I’ve known people who forwarded projects and enterprises dedicated to this goal. Without exception, they could see past corruption, and in so doing, they projected an energy that exposed the lie of “the human condition” and the doom that would consign human civilization to failure.
They knew there was something else.
We know it, too.
No matter how bad things get, the individual can fashion and create enterprises that rise beyond the common bed of corruption….and beyond the collective.
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(JD Heyes) In recent days you may recall, on this site and others, reading about wild tales involving a group of “misguided” students at Evergreen State College in Olympia, Washington who demanded observance and compliance with “No Whites Day” while threatening professors, staff and other students who disagreed with the racist demonstration.
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Just few years ago, the concept of false flag terrorism was virtually unheard of. We were so consumed by the mainstream media narrative that anything presented against it was criticized, no matter how much evidence surfaced to prove that narrative to be false. Nobody knew of the corruption lying at the heart of politics and major industries, and still, too few people know about it today.
That being said, the world is rapidly waking up, so much so that most terrorist attacks, especially the ones occurring in the countries that represent the Western military alliance, cannot really happen anymore without a false flag possibility at least being raised. While mainstream corporate media still opposes this theory when it arises — the same corporate entities running the globe and enforcing a certain way of life on everyone on it — the concept has at least entered the mainstream.
The birth of social media sites and independent/alternative media outlets gave the world a new source of information, and one that differed from corporate media. Billions of eyes turned toward sites like Collective Evolution, platforms like Wikileaks, and people like Edward Snowden. As a result, the human collective became aware of some facts that it had never been presented with before.
One of these facts was the occurrence of false flag terrorism, with the clearest example being 9/11,
The evidence for false flag terrorism has been presented by countless politicians, military personnel, academics, and more, but despite the staggering amount of research and evidence presented, their voices are never shared in mainstream media.
That being said, mainstream media does allow their own anchors to entertain this idea, or at least suggest that the other narrative exists. I think they were essentially left with no choice, as so many people were becoming aware of it and questioning how the biggest media outlets could completely ignore it, as they had been doing for decades.
This is evident in the interview below, where popular mainstream media news anchor Megyn Kelly speaks to Vladimir Putin on a number of topics, including the supposed chemical attack that occurred recently in Syria.
Putin is one of multiple politicians who has been letting the world know that false flag terrorism exists. Donald Trump is another, raising the issue during the presidential candidate race, where he called out the U.S. government for creating ISIS through funding.
Prominent author and Canadian economist Dr. Michel Chossudovsky, who is the University of Ottawa’s Emeritus Professor of Economics, summed up the narrative quite well at the International Conference on the New World Order, which was organized and sponsored by the Perdana Global Peace Foundation:
We are dealing with a criminal undertaking at a global level . . . and there is an ongoing war, it is led by the United States, it may be carried out by a number of proxy countries, which are obeying orders from Washington . . . The global war on terrorism is a US undertaking, which is fake, it’s based on fake premises. It tells us that somehow America and the Western world are going after a fictitious enemy, the Islamic state, when in fact the Islamic state is fully supported and financed by the Western military alliance and America’s allies in the Persian Gulf. . . . They say Muslims are terrorists, but it just so happens that terrorists are Made in America. They’re not the product of Muslim society, and that should be abundantly clear to everyone on this floor. . . . The global war on terrorism is a fabrication, a big lie and a crime against humanity. (source) (source)
There are many takeaways from the interview, but right off the bat Kelly brings up the idea that Russia admitted to Syria using chemical weapons in 2013. Putin is quick to correct her, and always quick to ask where she is getting her information. This happens repeatedly throughout the full version of the interview, especially when it comes to the accusations of alleged Russian hacking in the U.S. elections.
The fact that Kelly even entertains the idea of false flag terrorism, although ultimately ridiculing the suggestion, is something that’s never been seen in the past, but as explained above, these outlets no longer have any choice but to acknowledge it as a possibility because so many people are becoming aware of it through other information sources.
Another takeaway is the fact that Kelly really tries to ridicule the idea that any of this could have been fake or orchestrated. And Putin gives a blunt response: “The answer is very simple and you know it, yes could have been used by someone but not by Assad. It could have been used by someone in order to accuse President Assad. So, we have to understand who is to blame, otherwise if there is no true investigation it’s only going to play in the hands of those who orchestrated it.”
You can refer to the articles below for more information and for sources for the information mentioned above. The interview is below that:
This Begs the Question, Who Is Megyn Kelly Working For? Does She Know It?
Today, there exists only a handful of major mainstream media networks, and they are all controlled by a very small group of corporations and the people that run them. Think about that: 90-95% of the information we see is given to us by them, and nobody else.
But, perhaps the most alarming fact is that mainstream media networks are paid and used by the corporate, political, and intelligence world. They are sold stories, and present fake narratives on various global events for a number of different reasons.
Where is the proof? A declassified document from the CIA archives in the form of a letter from a CIA task force addressed to the Director of the Central Intelligence Agency, details the close relationship that exists between the CIA and mainstream.
James F. Tracy is a professor at the University of Iowa and a former professor of communications at Boca Raton, Florida Atlantic University. He wrote an excellent article on this topic that we published a few months ago, outlining 50 facts the about the CIA and the media the world should know.
“Operation Mockingbird,” an initiative likely still going on today, is further proof.
Dr. Udo Ulfkotte is a top German journalist and editor and has been for more than two decades, so you can bet he knows a thing or two about mainstream media and what really happens behind the scenes. Recently, Dr. Ulfakatte went on public television stating that he was forced to publish the works of intelligence agents under his own name, also adding that noncompliance with these orders would result in him losing his job. He recently made appearance on RT news to share these facts.
CBC News reporter Sharyl Attkisson is another one. She delivered a hard-hitting TEDx talk showing how fake grassroots movements funded by political, corporate, or other special interests very effectively manipulate and distort media messages.
Another great example is Amber Lyon, a three-time Emmy award winning journalist at CNN who said that they are routinely paid by the U.S. government and foreign governments to selectively report and even distort information on certain events. She has also indicated that the government has editorial control over content.
The War Against ‘Other Media’
Millions of people around the world are now tuning in to alternative media outlets every single day, and mainstream outlets are doing everything in their power to change that. For example, Facebook decided to team up with Snopes and corporations like Disney to determine, for the people, what is credible and what isn’t. Thus, algorithms have changed and a lot of content that now threatens the interests of the global elite is censored. This is yet another example of just how many people are waking up and starting to see through the lies, manipulation, and false information offered by mainstream media networks. And that is encouraging.
Waking up to this information can be difficult and uncomfortable, but it’s better to be aware than asleep, and we’ve come a long way. As a result of simple awareness, false flag terrorism (one topic of many that the elite want to hide) has now made its way into the mainstream, thus ‘waking up’ even more people.
There are people out there who say “It will never change,” but the truth is, they’re just not the ones who will do it or contribute to that change. The change is evident, and we’ve come such a long way it’s almost hard to believe.
As it was exciting to see what the future would bring five years ago, it’s even more exciting now.
by Conscious Optimist
Some secrets are "secret" due to being deliberately undisclosed—others items of interest are secret because no matter how often you try to tell people, they remain pathologically deaf to such disclosure. This is the case, in my opinion, with regards to the role of microbial and fungal life in the regeneration of our planet. Put simply, mushrooms are the master chemists of the biosphere, and with their help we can solve a lot of the impending ecological catastrophes. We could, perhaps, avoid the prospect of rendering our own habitat uninhabitable for our species by using a wealth of knowledge regarding mushrooms that has been online now for years.
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Would it shock you to know that by reading this article, you are presently interfacing with artificial intelligence to enhance personal cognitive brain function?
Let’s be clear: Technology is a form of external artificial intelligence or AI. That ship has sailed.
“The merging of mind and machine has already begun with cochlear and retinal implants, coming neural implants, and gene editing.” TWEET THIS
As science pushes forward in its quest to upgrade the human experience, what will it mean for human consciousness — and for you?
Self-Actualization, the pinnacle of Maslow’s five-level human needs pyramid, is close at hand for a larger segment of the population than ever before.
Basic needs met, you have the ability to move far beyond survivalism toward discovering your inner genius, thus reaching your highest potential as a human being.
Yet, lurking somewhere in the darkness, the fear persists that artificial intelligence will surpass human intelligence in an AI arms race, as publicly warned by Elon Musk, Dr. Stephen Hawking, and Bill Gates.
Darkness Before the Dawn
Let’s first look at how technology has played a part in advancing the evolution of human consciousness.
Try to imagine going back to a world without a www in front of it. Even if you’re old enough, it’s difficult: the 5 a.m. thud of the local newspaper hitting the pavement outside your window; teaching for an encyclopedia that hadn’t been appended since the current edition’s printing a decade earlier; waiting until 6 p.m. for world news; community gossip.
It was a small, small, world after all — but only in the last half century. Previously, it was much smaller. Access to external stimuli (i.e. education, ideas, and information) was a lot more precarious.
Additionally, cultural and religious conditioning did a bang-up job of programming you to take your lumps and like ‘em. There was little to no incentive to change the status quo.
You were highly likely to be born, live, and die similarly to the way your parents did.
Innovation, rebellion, and revolution came at a steep price for those who dared buck society and its institutions even from the inside. Though things have improved — slightly.
Hence, except for a handful of time-honoured geniuses ahead of the curve willing to take the blows for the rest of us, the collective evolution of human consciousness was tedious, cumbersome, and SLOW.
Then came August 6th, 1991: The world wide web became publicly available without fanfare by global media.
English CERN scientist Tim Berners-Lee had developed the first web browser computer program in response to his desire to make it easier for scientists around the world to share information, thus ushering in the Information Age.
(It should be noted that before then, an Internet of networked computers existed originating with the U.S. federal government back in the 1960s to link supercomputers in the event one was destroyed in a nuclear blast — also for communications/storage — the data made safe through redundancy.)
What Is Consciousness?
Before we fast forward to today, let’s establish a simplified definition of consciousness as self-awareness.
In reality, scientists are still attempting to quantify the unquantifiable previously contemplated throughout the last millennia by philosophers such as Plato, Socrates, Thomas Aquinas, Bertrand Russell, Einstein, and many more.
Research is struggling to move beyond theory to answer rudimentary questions such as whether consciousness originates within the brain, or if the brain acts like a receiver that processes non-physical signals.
A Harvard team of researchers think they’ve pinpointed the network of brainstem regions that are the physical source of consciousness. Whether it’s the origin of consciousness remains unanswered.
Dr. Lucien Hardy from the Perimeter Institute in Ontario, Canada, recently proposed a quantum entanglement experiment to determine if consciousness is local or non-local that could even throw previous interpretations of quantum mechanics and free will into question.
What we do know is consciousness is the individuated subjective experience. I (subject) see an (object); therefore, I know I exist.
Theoretical physicist Dr. Michio Kaku sums up consciousness as “the process of creating multiple feedback loops to create a model of yourself in space with regard to others, and in time.”
In the linked video, Dr. Kaku goes on to state he believes beings embody varying levels of consciousness similar to what Eastern traditions call levels of sentience.
(Interesting Note: In 2014, I met Dr. Kaku at a book signing at Wright State University. I gave him a copy of my book, What Is God? Rolling Back the Veil, explaining sentience and levels.)
Feedback loop: Think back to those old dusty Britannicas sitting in your parents’ basement. Human consciousness drafted their content that went on to inform human consciousness as a feedback loop.
Consciousness was recognized in 1918 by Nobel Prize winner and one of the founding fathers of Quantum Theory, Max Planck, as fundamental to all aspects of life: “I regard matter as derivative from consciousness . . . Everything that we talk about, everything that we regard as existing postulates consciousness.”
In other words, Planck is stating his yet-unproven belief that feedback loops exist within nature. Matter is derived from consciousness recycling back to consciousness.
A modern-day pioneer in the field of unified physics is Nassim Haramein, Director of Research at the Resonance Science Foundation, where he leads a team of physicists, mathematicians, and engineers. He says: “Everything emerges and returns to a fundamental field of information that connects us all.”
Again, information is a form or byproduct of consciousness; consciousness is information.
That all life is inseparable and interdependent will be one of the most important revelations in modern physics.
Man and Machine
At this year’s SXSW Conference in Austin, Texas, Ray Kurzweil, Google Director of Engineering and futurist boasting an 86% prediction accuracy rate, forecast: “2029 is the consistent date I have predicted for when an AI will pass a valid Turing test and therefore achieve human levels of intelligence. I have set the date 2045 for the ‘Singularity’ which is when we will multiply our effective intelligence a billion fold by merging with the intelligence we have created.”
(The Turing Test, developed by Alan Turing in 1950, is when machines can exhibit intelligent behaviour indistinguishable from human behaviour. Technological Singularity is when AI results in exponential runaway superintelligence that would continue to exponentially upgrade itself. Becoming self-aware, it could possibly render humanity obsolete.)
Knowledge is just one byproduct of many feedback loops that run the gamut of the five physical senses, or sentience, that make us human. We might begin to call feedback loops dimensions.
Socrates knew well that knowledge alone becomes a limitation. This is key.
In the same way you look in a mirror and see a living, breathing copy of you, the mirror is only a two-dimensional representation of the you that occupies the 11 dimensions theorized by Dr. Kaku.
Buddhists also recognize a sixth sense — the subjective experience of the mind. Doesn’t it reason that the sixth sense also arises as a byproduct (along with knowledge) of the combination of the first five senses? Now we’re getting into the fractal, multi-dimensional nature of Creation.
Chemical processes in the mind/body feedback loop then create feelings in the body, and so on. If the Universe is indeed unified, then human senses continue beyond six into the sublime and yet undetectable.
Do you see the complex layering of feedback loops/dimensions and processes involved?
Technology/AI are tools that can enhance consciousness, aiding in its evolution, but represent only a fractional part of the whole.
If the question for our times is, when does technology (AI) become self-aware and surpass biology (human beings) in delivering Singularity as a constant, the answer is, AI can only mimic a partial experience.
New Origin of Species Event
If all life is One, there is no line of demarcation where consciousness begins and where consciousness ends. Consciousness endures, and like the Universe, it expands and evolves.
“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness.”
? Albert Einstein
So far, we’ve mostly explored consciousness and its evolution via external forces from the perspective of separation consciousness.
When you experience yourself as “separate” from the rest of life, you experience death in the physical world.
“The greater shock may be that Singularity has already been occurring throughout history without the aid of technology.” TWEET THIS
What happens when we explore consciousness by tapping into our internal world as taught by the Masters, accessing unseen forces or higher dimensions of consciousness?
What the Masters knew and today’s awakening collective mass is “realizing” comes from a “sense” (level of consciousness/dimension) no machine will ever experience.
Recognizing the oneness of the Cosmo, your personal experience miraculously transfigures into one where you transcend death for eternal life as extolled by Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Yogananda, Maharshi, and many others.
Spontaneous evolution is the transmutation of separation consciousness to unity consciousness.
Aided by technology or not, the self-realized human being is a new species.
“Enlightenment is true Singularity.” TWEET THIS
Your brilliant future here, now, is Singularity as holistic self-awareness in the now moment that you are mind, body, and spirit capable of miracles.
Boundaries removed, you become fearless.
Suffering and hardship end, replaced by peaceful, abundant living.
Death conquered, immortality becomes your new reality.
This is Humanity 2.0.
Have you heard of “Nature Deficit Disorder”? Author Richard Louv created the phrase in his book Last Child in the Woods. NDD refers to the disconnect that exists in the modern world between children and nature. It also reflects what many teens, adults, and seniors are experiencing in our busy lives. Many of us are spending too much time in the ever-expanding and enticing online digital world of social media, emails, and YouTube videos. We are losing our connection to ourselves, to nature, and even to other humans (meeting or speaking face to face). Our senses are being dulled from lack of use and our brains are overstimulated and overloaded, resulting in mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion. Thankfully, there is a solution: A daily dose of Mother Nature can help bring balance back to our busy, stressful lives.
In his new book, Vitamin N: 500 Ways to Enrich Your Family’s Health & Happiness, Richard Louv refers to the importance of doses of “Vitamin N,” or nature. There has been an explosion of research over the last few years showing the important connection between spending time in green spaces and our mind, body, and soul health. Nature is vital to replenishing our energy, calming our busy minds, and helping us ground and connect again.
Here are some great tips from his book to help ensure we receive our daily dose of Vitamin N.
Book Nature Time: Life is overly busy for most of us. In order to ensure we avoid NDD, we need to book daily nature breaks and activities and stick to it. It can be as simple as playing or eating in the backyard or taking a slow walk in nature, being aware of the flowers, trees, birds, sky, water, rain, sun — no matter what the weather. One can have so much fun in the middle of a storm, so get your gear on and get outside! Whether by yourself or with the company of friends, family, or pets: BREATHE IN the amazing energy of the woods, local creek or river, the forest, mountains, beaches, or gardens, and REFRESH.
Use your Senses: Utilize all your senses and encourage your kids to as well. STOP and smell the flowers, Feel the breeze, taste the rain, touch the trees, walk barefoot and lie on the grass. Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, and feel the energy: Bring your focus to your foot and how it feels against the grass, and slowly follow that energy throughout your body, feeling all your cells come alive and sparkle with life. Visualize the energy running through your body from the earth and ground yourself. By reconnecting to our Energy Body, we bring ourselves back “down to Earth” instead of being in our racing and busy monkey minds all the time.
Negative Ions in Nature: Natural settings like forests, lakes, streams, and beaches are teeming with plant life and water and thus rich in molecules called negative ions. Although you can’t see or smell them, negative ions are known to boost mood and enhance energy, which can help alleviate depression and anxiety and calm us down.
Forest Bathing: Forest bathing originated in Japan and provides evidence that a slow, relaxed walk in the woods has measurable restorative and calming benefits.
Utilize Imagination: When outdoors, let children follow their own intuition and have fun — climb hills, jump puddles, and stop to look at things more closely. Allow them to PLAY and encourage questions and possible answers, making a note to look up items together, once home. Be childlike and curious alongside them. Use your imagination. Have a sense of wonder and investigate nature as if you are seeing things for the first time. (Some of you may be!)
Nature Spot: Have family members designate their own special spot where they can visit to find peace and reconnect. Observe and discuss how it changes according to the light, season, temperature, and bugs, birds, or other aspects nearby. Do a family meditation, tell stories, or utilize everyone’s imagination to bring it to life differently on each visit. Encourage sharing within the group to enhance everyone’s creativity.
High-tech Nature: Use technology to engage kids. Geocaching is a new fun way to engage the family in the great outdoors — think of it as Scavenger Hunting 2.0. Use a cellphone or camera to record nature sounds or a nature activity and have the kids share how they feel, what they see, and what they learn. Download a digital nature guide and follow it together.
There are many wonderful and innovative ways we can make sure we get our regular dose of Vitamin N. How do you do it? Please comment and share your tips below.
We live in a world where divorce has become accepted as the norm rather than the exception. According to the American Psychological Association, 40-50% of married couples in the United States divorce, a number that is truly astonishing considering how many of us still long to one day tie the knot with a significant other.
Why is it that so many of us continue to say “I do,” or hope to one day soon, despite the odds of those vows holding true being about as likely as successfully calling heads or tails in a coin flip?
I believe many are still drawn to this practice because asking for someone’s hand in marriage is still viewed as the ultimate romantic gesture. It’s one thing to muster up the courage to ask someone out or to say “I love you” for the first time, but it’s another entirely to profess your desire to spend the rest of your life with that person — or at least we are led to believe that to be the case.
While I have yet to get married myself, I am certainly a part of the global population that one day hopes to. But the last thing I want to do is become yet another divorce statistic. And so, in order to minimize the chances of this becoming my fate, I recently decided to do some informal research by speaking with a number of couples that I personally have observed and identified as admirable. It didn’t matter whether they had been married for twenty years or not at all; I simply wanted to know what they felt was critical to the success of their partnership. Some I asked directly, while others I would get the answers I was looking for through casual conversation.
Here are three of the most important factors I identified for a truly happy and long-lasting relationship:
1. They Give Each Other Space
While you and your partner are bound to have a number of common interests, chances are you aren’t a carbon copy of one another — and that’s probably a good thing. That being the case, there are always going to be a number of things that your spouse enjoys doing that you do not, and vice versa.
And one of the frequently stated keys to a long-lasting relationship is the ability to give one another the time and space to do those things without guilt or jealousy attached. If your partner is passionate about knitting and you’re not, don’t take their desire to regularly knit without you personally. Support them in making regular time for that activity and celebrate their accomplishments within it.
2. They Make Regular Time for the Things They Both Love
On the other side of spectrum, the second key factor is the importance of making regular time for the interests that you do share. So perhaps you don’t share your partner’s passion for knitting, but you do both have a great love for gardening: Make a point of engaging in that passion together regularly!
Chances are good that your common interests played a role in your relationship developing in the first place, so why not celebrate that by making it a regular part of your time together? Think of how much joy doing what you are passionate about brings you. Doesn’t including one of your favourite people in the world (who also just so happens to love doing it as well) in it sound like a great thing to do?
3. It Ends With a Kiss
While this was only being done by one of the couples I spoke with, it made this list because it’s a cute extension of other common advice I’ve heard. We’ve all likely been told to “never go to bed angry” with our partner, and most couples I spoke with offered that advice, but one particular couple took it one step further by sharing that they make a point of ending every night with a romantic kiss.
The hopeless romantic in me melted a bit when I heard this, but their logic behind it really resonated with me as well. To them it ensures that they not only always go to bed at peace with one another, but that they also remind each other of the connection they share and choose to celebrate it even when times are tough.
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